self responsibility


I first heard that term in a book by Melody Beattie, The language of Letting Go. Its been a lesson that I’ve had to work on for most of my adult life.

Being responsible, owning what you do, and the situations you find yourself in.



Learning to face situations head on, learning to focus on the moment.  If we do this, and truly believe in our passion, a path will open up.  You will find a way to be comfortable with where you are, and what you are feeling.  Each moment is a new creation to be savored and experienced fully.  Embrace the healing presence of God within us.  Quietly and with a new zest for life, we open our minds to rich new ideas.  ideas, that help us give of ourselves, our talents and our resources.  God is life itself.  Through the presence of God within, the…

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A Message From The Creator


A Message From The Creator


Women’s News: Europe Reviewing Morning-After Pills: Are They Less Effective In Women Over 165 Pounds?


Are emergency contraceptives really less effective in heavier women?

In November, French pharmaceutical company HRA Pharma announced that it was adding warning labels to its popular morning-after pill, Norlevo, after studies found the drug was less effective in women weighing more than 75 kilograms (165 pounds) and that it didn’t work at all for women over 80 kilograms (176 pounds).

The European Medicines Agency (EMA) announced this week that it is currently reviewing morning-after pills to check the veracity of this claim.

“This is an efficacy issue,” said agency spokesperson Monika Benstetter, per The Associated Press, adding that the EMA — an agency of the European Union — would be performing an assessment of all EU products in the same category as Norlevo to check for consistency and to find out if there is indeed “a cut-off threshold for when the medicine becomes less effective.”

Mother Jones wrote in a post last year that Norlevo, which contains the active ingredient levonorgestrel, has the same chemical structure and dosage as some American emergency contraceptive pills including Plan B One-Step, Next Choice One Dose and My Way.

According to the AP, a number of European brands — ellaOne, Levonnelle and Levodonna, among others — also contain levonorgestrel.

Since the average weight of American women aged 20-29 is 161 pounds(just 5 pounds under the weight at which Norlevo becomes less effective) and the average weight of an American woman aged 30-39 is 169 pounds, the EMA review and other developments surrounding this issue certainly have implications for women in the United States. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration has also said it will look into the matter.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, approximately 11 percent of sexually experienced American women between the ages of 15 and 44 used emergency contraceptives between 2006 and 2010.

“There’s no evidence that similar warnings will be popping up here [in the U.S.], but our version [the Plan B pill] is formulated with similar levels of the same kind of synthetic hormones as Norlevo,” wrote Slate last year, “meaning there’s every reason to believe that women who weigh more than 165 pounds in the U.S. are just as prone to see a decrease in the pill’s effectiveness.”

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An Inspirational Moment: Lesbian Writes Letter Responding To Neighbor’s Comment

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A letter that appears to have been written by a woman who had the word “lesbian” used as an insult against her by a neighbor is currently making the rounds on the Internet.

The mysterious woman who is, in fact, a lesbian, seems to have taped the letter to her neighbor’s door after hilariously reclaiming all of the stereotypes that she embodies. Check out the letter below.


Dear whoever just walked by the laundry room and whispered, ‘she’s a lesbian.’ What gave it away? My lack of bra, my no make-up, my black truck, my boots? OR was it the painful fact that I bring more girls home than you?Sincerely,
Your lesbian neighbor.

P.S. Very observant.


This isn’t the first letter to that deals with issues affecting the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community to go viral.

Last October, a letter written by a grandfather to his daughter after she abandoned her gay son went viral. Additionally, last March a father wrote a heartwarming note to his son after he overheard his son mention he wanted to come out of the closet while talking to a friend on the phone.

(h/t Have A Gay Day)

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Women’s News: Why It’s Harder For Women To ‘Brag’ About Themselves At Work — And Why We Really Need To


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What if all that stood between you and that promotion was a little bit of background noise?

You know the relief you feel the moment you can attribute days of emotional turmoil to your monthly cycle? Or when you lash out at a coworker and realize you just need a snack? As soon as we realize there may be a scientific justification for our behavior, we often start to chill out.

It’s called a “misattribution source,” and a new study suggests it may confirm that women are profoundly uncomfortable talking themselves up — especially in the workplace.

In the study, titled “Women’s Bragging Rights: Overcoming Modesty Norms to Facilitate Women’s Self Promotion,” in Psychology of Women Quarterly, Jessi L. Smith, a psychology professor at Montana State University, investigated the link between “norm violation” and the ability to self-promote. It’s well-documented that women are less inclined to talk about their achievements than men, largely due to a culture that mandates female modesty — for a number of reasons.

As Kat Stoeffel wrote on The Cut last year, often this results from rational consideration of potential costs: Data shows that people don’t always respond favorably to a woman speaking her mind. As such, telling women to praise themselves can cause anxiety.

When Smith and research assistant Megan Huntoon asked college-aged women at Montana State University to write two letters of recommendation for a scholarship — one on their own behalf and one for a friend — letters written for friends were judged as considerably better in quality than letters of self-recommendation. Why did these women have such a hard time writing on their own behalf? According to psychologists, engaging in a “norm violating” activity triggers anxiety, and ultimately, poorer outcomes. Even in 2014, fear of un-ladylike bragging stresses women out.

But what if we could trick women into feeling at ease? Since the 1970s, psychologists, have studied whether attributing to stress to an external source (other than deeply imbedded psychological concerns) can alleviate anxiety. Could it enhance performance, too? Smith and Huntoon wanted to find out.

As some of the study’s participants sat down to write their recommendation letters, the researchers informed them that a “black box subliminal noise generator” would be causing them anxiety. Of course, such a thing doesn’t exist — but the women being studied didn’t know that. Simply put, the researchers wanted to see if women could unknowingly surrender their fear and overcome their self-imposed modesty — allowing them to actually give themselves the credit they deserve.

And, lo and behold, when given something external to blame their anxiety on, the women performed better. Those who had the black box “as justification to explain their discomfort” wrote letters awarded up to $1,000 by a panel of impartial judges. They also expressed more interest — and saw more value — in writing the letter when channeling their stress towards a made-up source. Clearly, the mind is eager to let go of inhibitions when given permission.

So, what are the practical implications of this study? Tell female SAT takers the heat is broken? Conduct year-end reviews in construction zones? Not exactly. However, there are things employers can do to help.

In reaction to this study, HuffPost Associate Business Editor Jillian Berman wrote of several practical ways employers can ensure accomplishments and qualifications are addressed that don’t require women to constantly vocalize them. To start, employers “should assume women are probably underselling themselves” and companies like Googleand Time have already taken steps to “create safe spaces for self-promotion,” Berman writes.

These findings are critical in understanding why a gender wage gap persists — particularly in higher management. Confirming that women may find it harder to speak up for themselves should inform the way managers and search committees use women’s self-evaluations in promotion and hiring situations.

In the meantime, we can encourage women to let themselves off the modesty hook themselves. Ladies, it’s time to lean in without being pushed.

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Women’s News: A Door Opens for Women’s Right to Sexual Pleasure, Let’s Hope the FDA Doesn’t Close It


Serra Sippel

President, Center for Health and Gender Equity

When a woman or man suffers from a form of sexual dysfunction, their ability to have a satisfying sex life is curtailed and personal relations with a partner or spouse also can be damaged. The global community’s response to sexual dysfunction should be equal for women and men, but it is not. This year marks 16 years since the introduction of Viagra. Today, the market includes more than 20 drugs to address male sexual dysfunction — and not a single one for women.

The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved 24 drugs to treat some form of male sexual dysfunction (low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, Peyronie’s disease), yet they continue to hold up the approval of just one drug for women — flibanserin. Flibanserin would treat the most common form of female sexual dysfunction — low sexual desire (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder or HSDD).

In the coming weeks, women’s health advocates are awaiting a decision on a dispute taken to the FDA that objects to delays in approving a first-of-its-kind treatment for low sexual desire with accompanying distress in women.

Twenty years ago, 180 countries gathered in Cairo, Egypt for the groundbreaking International Conference on Population and Development (ICPD) — here nations made commitments to advance the sexual and reproductive health and rights (SRHR) of women, men, and young people throughout the world. The Center for Health and Gender Equity (CHANGE) emerged from this conference as an advocacy group to ensure that U.S. commitments to the SRHR agenda were translated into U.S. policies.

Both the ICPD Programme of Action and the Fourth World Conference on Women and Girls Platform for Action (Beijing, 1995) articulate that individuals should be able to have safe and satisfying sex lives. Sexual health services, according to these two global consensus documents, should be more than just counseling and care related to reproduction and sexually-transmitted diseases. Understanding sexuality to be a critical human need, the international consensus aims higher: sexual health includes the enhancement of life and personal relations.

A drug that addresses HSDD would enhance life and personal relations for women who suffer from low sexual desire. Without a doubt, there is a need for safe and effective treatment for female HSDD, yet none has ever been approved. But now, we have a product before the FDA and the application must be taken seriously.

CHANGE is not endorsing any one product under pending application for female sexual dysfunction. However, we believe that a thorough review and re-consideration of flibanserin is due. Certainly the fact that numerous treatments have been approved by the FDA and made available for men, while none have ever been approved for women, should raise questions.

No single drug will ever be a cure-all for any condition, and will not be the choice for all women. It is only fair that women have choices to address sexual dysfunction as men do.

The FDA should remember the commitment made by the U.S. government to the global community — and to the women of the world — to support the ability of individuals to have a satisfying sexual life. The FDA should closely examine the extensive data package that has been submitted and make a decision that would be in the best interest of women, thereby keeping the door open for women’s sexual health, pleasure and life enhancement.

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Women’s News: This Is How You’re Wasting 3,276 Hours Of Your Life

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Are you a “vain fool?”

You’d be in the company of self-professed beauty addict, Tracey Spicer, an Australian journalist who introduces herself as a “vain fool” in her Dec. 2013 TEDx SouthBankWomen talk about beauty routines.

“Today I’d like us to reassess the amount of time we spend on our grooming and the affect it has on our productivity. Imagine what we could achieve if we weren’t beholden to society’s unreasonable expectations about how we should look.”

To open the presentation, Spicer details her time-consuming — and often painful — daily beauty routine. From going on a run at 6 a.m. even though “no one is chasing me with an axe,” to applying a plethora of lotions, serums and gels, Spicer perfectly illustrates just how absurd our grooming processes can be. Why do we do this to ourselves? Spicer is spot on when she answers: “Because it’s bullshit.”

Spicer discusses the ever-present unrealistic images of women and how they negatively affect women’s health, happiness and overall wellbeing. While many might already know how these images affect women, Spicer offers a unique perspective by analyzing what we could do with all the hours usually used for grooming:

Women take an average of 27 minutes to get ready for work. Over a year, that is 10 full working days. That’s an awful lot of productivity lost … Over our lives on average, women will take 3,276 hours in grooming. For men it’s 1,092 … That’s about a third. Do you know what we could do over those 3,276 hours? We could complete a pre-MBA course at Oxford Business School, become proficient at a musical instrument or learn another language.


If that wasn’t trouble enough, Spicer goes on to explain that excess grooming time has been shown to decrease earnings.

Whether it’s for personal enjoyment or professional purposes, Spicer understands that women’s motivations to partake in beauty routines are subjective. In order to move away from excessive, unserviceable grooming, she lists three ways women can trim the fat from their individual daily beauty routines:

1) Take note of the number of minutes your personal grooming eats up over a day, week and month.

2) Think about all the other things you could be doing: writing a book; meditating; spending time with family.

3) Decide what you can reduce or live without.

Tracey Spicer’s focus on what beauty maintenance takes — rather than what it gives — is a refreshing angle worth taking to heart. Imagine what we could achieve if we took some advice from Ms. Spicer.

What would you do if you used your grooming time for something else? Comment below, or tweet @HuffPostWomen.

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Inspiration Of Style:Model Fall At Elie Saab Show Has Us Cringing (PHOTOS)

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Want to see 200 fashion editors and bloggers wince in unison? Take a model, put her in sky-high heels and a long gown and set her off on the runway. Unfortunately, that deadly set-up met its logical conclusion on Wednesday, when a model in the Elie Saab couture show took a spill. Captured on camera (see it at 6:35 here), the spill was unfortunately like so many we’ve seen before. Perhaps next Fashion Week, the models can take the advice Jennifer Lawrence so famously misinterpreted at the Oscars and “kick, walk, kick, walk.” (On that fateful Oscars night in 2013, Miss Lawrence thought the directions were “cakewalk, cakewalk, cakewalk” — now we get why she fell.) See what went down (pun… not intended?) in Paris today. model fall model fall model fall Why does this keep happening? Read More:

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