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Women’s News: How To ‘Train’ A Woman, According To Reddit

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Ladies, take note. The men of Reddit would like to “train” you.

In a recent discussion in the Ask The Red Pill forum, a subreddit dedicated to men’s rights activism, Redditor booboo2shoes posted:

I’ve seen some people refer to training a woman you’re dating or perhaps have entered into a [long-term relationship] with. I am curious to hear some techniques or peruse some resources that focus on this topic. Got any?

 

Here are seven of the most absurd comments and responses this apparently serious post received:

    1. “Reward behavior you approve of with eye contact, smiles, and other positive reinforcement. Punish behavior you disapprove of with physical, social, or emotional withdrawal. It doesn’t take many instances to establish a pattern.”

 

    1. “I told her that if she can’t control her crying to leave or I will.”

 

 

    1. “Just told her straight out if I can’t use my testosterone to win arguments you can’t use your estrogen.”

 

 

    1. “Always be ready to say, ‘If you’re going to act like this, I’m leaving.’ Then leave.”

 

 

    1. “I for one won’t allow tears to be used against me as a weapon. I won’t allow her to be a dead starfish in bed.”

 

 

    1. “My girlfriend likes to bring things up and drop them, it annoys me to no end and I let her know by ignoring her.”

 

 

  1. “Pick up a book on operant conditioning. Works on dogs and it works on humans.”

 

To recap: women can (and should) be “trained” like dogs to act the way men would like them to, emotional responses are “weapons” and there’s apparently no need to have a real, human conversation when your partner’s behavior upsets you.

We’re fully on board with Erin Gloria Ryan’s response to this nonsense over atJezebel: “Here’s some cool advice on how to change the behavior of a person you’re going out with: if they’re doing something you don’t like, tell them.”

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/30/how-to-train-a-woman-according-to-reddit_n_4017596.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Women’s News: How I Wage Battle Against Body Dysmorphic Disorder

Shannon Bradley- Colleary

Aging vaintress, wife dominatrix, mom butler and humble author who is slightly mustachioed

This weekend I laterally passed my husband all my kid obligations and ran off with my two oldest friends (though not actually old — old is 96 in my book) for a mom’s weekend to Palm Springs where we proceeded to do wild things. Like nap. And drink. And nap. And shop. And nap. And eat pastries. And nap. Oh yes, this is a descent story where we tapped into our dark sides. And napped.

But here’s the thing about women. We never shut up about how fat we are. You could play zydeco on our ribs and we’d still think we were fat. This is what we sounded like this weekend, “When I bend over can you see the jelly rolls on my stomach?” “Could you do a lunar landing on the cheesy side of my ass?” “Do I have little back fat sausages I can’t see in this top?” “Can you see the chafing where my thighs rub together in this bathing suit?” “Do my earlobes appear to be hanging lower since I gained ten pounds?” “Yes I care about the ozone, terrorists, hermaphrodite sex slave traders and Obama’s policy on Syria, but if you were a man would you find me deliciosa?”

I bet you anything Joan of Arc was distracted in battle if her armor felt too tight.

Tiresome. I’d love to be a person who practices self-love by aspiring to be beautiful on the inside, but who am I kidding? I want to be beautiful on the outside, too. Perhaps this makes me guilty of the three Vs: Vanity, Vapidity and Vancancy (of the soul), but I’ve seen evidence that even the brightest among us still want to be appreciated for their beauty. Just ask Dr. Peggy Drexler who wrote “Smart Women Want To Be Told They’re Pretty Too,”a meditation on the sexy image in Vanity Fair’s September issue of Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer lying upside down on a chaise lounge in a figure flattering blue Michael Kors dress. And has anyone seen an unattractive photo of Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg of Lean Infame? I don’t think so.

So I’m getting behind my quest to feel beautiful. The latest weapon in my aresenal? I’ve decided that every time the critical voice of my Body Dysmorphic Disorder kicks in I’m going to take a flattering photo of myself (no more nudes) and post it on Facebook so all my friends, especially the ones on my payroll, will tell me how great I look and my ego can be assuaged and for just one day I can look at that photo and KNOW that I’m not as unattractive as I think I am because that’s just the BDD talking.

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I can look at that photo and all of my dear friends’ kind words and feel beautiful, healthy, strong and just okay. And okay is good.

A flattering photo with my fellow BDD friends.(A flattering photo with my fellow BDD sufferers.)
What are your radical self-love covert ops?

Read More: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shannon-colleary/how-i-wage-battle-against-body-dysmorphic-disorder_b_3978189.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

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