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Women’s News: These Successful Women Prove The Power Of A Role Model

Meryl Streep, Viola Davis

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When Emma Stone was honored as an MTV Trailblazer in 2012, she rattled off the people who had inspired her: “people like Gilda Radner and Bill Murray and John Candy and Charlie Chaplin and the Beatles and J.D. Salinger and Lorne Michaels, who reminds me of the importance of comedy, and Cameron Crowe, whose work consistently reminds me of why I want to be an actor.” But she went on to say that she was not following in their footsteps; rather, she was trying to do something original. “They make me want to be more myself,” she said.

Stone’s message was one worth paying attention to. And it was interesting to hear her name the people who made her want to pursue her dreams, showing that even the biggest stars have at one point or another turned to others for inspiration. Who does someone like Oprah consider a role model? Or back-to-back Oscar nominee Jessica Chastain? Below you’ll find 11 noteworthy women — many of whom have been called role models themselves — paired with some of the people they’ve respected, admired and looked up to over the years.

1. Viola Davis
Role Model: Meryl Streep

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After Meryl Streep presented Viola Davis with a Women in Film Award in June 2012, Davis said she had a “confession” to make. After they filmed “Doubt” together, Streep sent Davis a card that meant so much to her that she kept it. “Okay Meryl, I framed the card,” Davis said. This wasn’t the first time Davis had expressed her admiration for Streep. She introduced Streep at the 2012 New York Film Critics’ Circle awards with high praise. Salon’s Andrew O’Hehir described the speech: “She hadn’t been looking for a Caucasian role model, she said, but the craft and range of Streep’s work on stage and screen had always impressed her … Streep’s example had demonstrated a fearlessness and generosity, Davis told us, that had opened new pathways in her personal and professional life.”
2. Sheryl Sandberg
Role Models: Adele Sandberg and Mark Zuckerberg

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Larry Summers may be Sheryl Sandberg’s mentor, but when asked at a March 2013 event about her role models, the Facebook COO and “Lean In” author named two other people who have greatly affected her life. On a personal level, she lauded her mom: “My mom is the most giving woman in the whole world who has done more for me and everyone else around her than anyone I’ve ever met.” And on a professional level, Sandberg says she learned a valuable lesson from Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg: “Mark looked at me six months into the job five years ago, and said, ‘Sheryl, you care too much about being liked. You are trying to please everyone all day long and you can’t do it. And if you never say anything that anyone disagrees with, you’re not going to say anything at all.'”
3. Michelle Obama
Role Model: Hillary Clinton

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Michelle Obama has said that Beyonce “could not be a better role model” for Sasha and Malia, but when it comes to her own role models, she’s cited Hillary Clinton as a source of support. “I don’t think she realizes how what she has done has made what I am doing partially possible,” the first lady said at an International Women’s Day ceremony in 2012. “So with all the respect and admiration that I can give to her, I will be wherever she needs me to be, whenever she needs me to be there.”
4. Jamie Malone
Role Models: Tim McKee and Erik Anderson

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Minneapolis chef Jamie Malone, one of Food & Wine’s “Best New Chefs” of 2013, says several people she’s worked for have really made a difference in how she approaches her job. “As far as the way I try to run the restaurant and treat people,Tim McKee is a really good role model for me, and I’ve actually been working with him for eight years,” Malone told the Huffington Post in an interview. “As far as cooking and techniques, Erik Anderson, my former chef here at Sea Change, has already been someone I look up to. He’s just super-disciplined and really dedicated to learning the craft of cooking.”
5. Jessica Chastain
Role Model: Isabelle Huppert

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Oscar nominee Jessica Chastain says that, despite all the acclaim, she still doesn’t feel totally confident or secure — but that’s not a bad thing. In an interview with Indiewire, she called French actress Isabelle Huppert a role model in this regard: “She’s constantly challenging herself, and doing theater. She puts herself in situations where: okay, we all know she’s a genius and a brilliant actress, she could take the easy road right now. But she doesn’t. She’s always putting herself in a situation where she goes: ‘I’ve never done this before. Let’s see what happens.’”
6. Gabby Douglas
Role Model: Dominique Dawes

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When Gabby Douglas won the gold medal for individual all-around at the 2012 Olympics, she became only the second African-American gymnast to win a gold medal. The first? Her role model: Dominique Dawes. “I loved Dominique Dawes,”Douglas said in an interview last month. “She inspired me to do bigger and better thing.” Dawes, for her part, cried her way through an interview after Douglas’ big win. “I think what touches my heart the most is knowing that there’s a whole generation of young kids looking up to her as they looked up to me,” she said.
7. Tavi Gevinson
Role Model: Stevie Nicks

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Tavi Gevinson, the teenage founder of Rookie, has talked to lots of awesome women: Emma Watson, Greta Gerwig, Aubrey Plaza… But there’s one in particular she considers a hero. (“Minus the cocaine,” as she told Refinery29.) Gevinson concluded her March 2012 TED talk by encouraging her audience to just “be Stevie Nicks.” “My favorite thing about her — other than, like, everything — is that she has always been unapologetically present onstage and unapologetic about her flaws and about reconciling all of her contradictory feelings. And she makes you listen to them and think about them,” Gevinson said. Nicks dedicated a song to Gevinson at a concert earlier this year.
8. Oprah Winfrey
Role Model: Maya Angelou


“It is an amazing thing, I tell you, to have a role model and then to grow up to have that role model be your friend,” Oprah Winfrey told Larry King in a 2001 interview. She was talking about Maya Angelou, whose 1969 autobiography, “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” changed her life. When Winfrey interviewed the author for the May 2013 issue of O magazine, she explained their relationship in the introduction: “Over the years, she has taught me some of the most profound lessons of my life: that when we know better, we do better; that to love someone is to liberate, not possess, them; that negative words have the power to seep into the furniture and into our skin; that we should be grateful even for our trials. She calls me her darling girl, and I call her my mother-sister-friend. And as I soak up her wisdom and marvel at her stamina, I bask in the pure, contagious joy she takes in living.”
9. Ricki Lake
Role Model: Oprah Winfrey

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“No one can replace Oprah,” Ricki Lake said in 2012 when asked about the role her new talk show would play in the TV landscape. But that didn’t mean she didn’t look to Winfrey as a role model. In fact, Lake was very open about the fact that she was going after a certain feeling evoked by the media mogul. “When she was in the audience, running around, had her arm around an audience member, you felt she understood you, related to you, wasn’t on any higher level than you,” Lake explained. “And you felt like your voice was heard. That’s the show I’m looking to do.”
10. Lynn Shelton
Role Models: Peggy Ahwesh and Claire Denis

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Filmmaker Lynn Shelton says her thesis adviser in grad school, the experimental filmmaker Peggy Ahwesh, had a huge effect on her. “She inspired me to make work that only I could make,” she told the Huffington Post in an interview. “When I go see a film, and it may be nothing like my own aesthetic but if it’s clearly a film that came out of one person’s head – with their team, of course, making it – and it doesn’t feel any number of directors could have directed this film, that’s the kind of work I would like to make.” Shelton also cites filmmaker Claire Denis as a major influence “from afar”: “She was 40 when she made her first feature, and yet has this great body of work. And it made me feel like, ‘Oh, I can still do this.’”
11. Sheila Taormina 
Role Model: Eric Liddell

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“A role model is someone who you know more about than just their swimming times,” Olympian Sheila Taormina told Her Campus in February 2013. Taormina was the first woman to make the Olympics in three different sports — swimming, triathlon and modern pentathlon — and she won a gold medal in 1996. Although she called her teammates her female role models, she also singled out Eric Liddell, the athlete who inspired the movie “Chariots of Fire,” as someone for whom she has enormous respect: “He was a Scotsman who raced for Great Britain but his Olympic race, the 100-meter dash in track and field, fell on a Sunday and he wouldn’t run because it was the Sabbath. The British Olympic committee kept saying, well, this is the Olympics so you can make an exception. I admire him because he had his convictions, you know, he said this is something more important to me than my sport and I’m standing by it. They ended up putting him in the 400 which was on a different day and he won the gold.”

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Women’s News: 20 Tips to Make the Most of Your 20s


Ashley Crouch

Contributing Editor, Verily Magazine

We’ve been called pre-adults, emerging adults, millennials, the defining decade and the lost decade. We graduated during the worst economy in recent memory and pulled ourselves up by our bootstraps to recover what was lost. We’ve been told 80% of life’s most significant events take place by age 35, but listened to other 20-somethings daydream about “taking some time off,” presumably to spend more time gaming. We have an intuitive sense that the foundation we lay now will continue to carry us throughout life. We’ve seen lists on “20 Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make” go viral and helped make it happen. One thing is clear: we’re searching for answers on how to make sense of this messy life we’re leading. I know, because this is my generation.

A few months ago, I spent an embarrassing number of days subsisting on ramen and canned beans. Working from a “home office” translated to “homebound,” because who has money for a $14 cocktail from the nearby dive bar? My cupboard resembled Old Mother Hubbard’s — read: bare — and going to a thrift shop transitioned from a hobby to a verb: “thrift-shopping.” I could feel the judgment vibes from everyone who wrote me “We believe in you!” cards for graduation.

The truth is, my 20-something experience isn’t so unusual. So, I turned to some established success stories and carefully curated their secrets. If you spend sleepless nights wondering whether you’re on the brink of the next big thing or teetering dangerously close to spending the rest of your life in your parents’ basement, read on. Here’s what those who have gone before (and lived to tell the tale) have to say about 20 tips to make the most of your 20s.

1. Don’t be afraid to jump at an opportunity. “In your 20s, you’re still early in your career and life, so you not only have less serious obligations (mortgage, family), but you also aren’t entrenched in your work networks and what you’ve built as your career story. That’s not to say to jump willy-nilly, but when an opportunity presents itself that seems really unique or interesting, go for it! As someone who started in accounting, then went to investing, and am now in media, you never know where your experiences will lead you.” – Kara Eschbach, Co-Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Verily Magazine

2. Don’t waste your time in a job you hate. “Find a job that you’re excited to wake up and go to every morning. And if you can, save a little money! Having a little financial freedom will allow you more room to pursue your passions freely.” – Chelsea Brownridge, Co-Director and COO, Ignite Good

3. Stop complaining. “You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness and success. If there is something you see wrong in the world, you can do something about it!” – Maurya Couvares, Founder, ScriptEd

4. Pick up the phone and make a cold call. “Don’t buy into what others may prescribe for you; go after your passions. Don’t be afraid to make that cold call, speak up in a meeting, or try something that scares you every now and then. Ask for what you want and you will get there a lot sooner than you think! There are no limits to what you can accomplish.” – Danielle Deabler, NPR, creator of “Generation Listen”

5. Write down your non-negotiables. “Your 20s are a time to be selfish and to figure yourself out, what you like and more importantly what you are not willing to tolerate. Figuring out your non-negotiables is a must to happiness in the personal and professional areas of your life.” – Rhoda Tamakloe, Senior Program Coordinator, Kaplan Educational Foundation

6. Follow through. “Set goals each month and meet them.” Enough said. – Penelope Trunk, renowned career coach, author, entrepreneur from Brazen Careerist, blogs atPenelope Trunk

7. Be revolutionary. “Don’t be afraid to be radical in thought or action. This is your time be in that state of mind. Throughout history, progress has been led by young folks who pushed the boundaries of the acceptable (just check out how old the Founding Fathers were). Promise, you can do that while still taking full advantage of Netflix unlimited instant streaming.” – Taylor Jo Isenberg, National Director, Roosevelt Institute | Campus Network

8. Do that thing you’re afraid of. “If you’re scared of heights, skydive. If you’re scared of public speaking, join the Toastmasters Club. If you’re scared of failure, do something you know you aren’t good at, in front of people, if at all possible. Facing small fears will make you a bolder and braver person in all other aspects of your life and the big scary decisions – moving across the country, quitting your job, starting your own company – won’t seem so scary.” – Rachel Hurley, Independent Consultant

9. Be willing to embarrass yourself. “The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you’re not willing to be embarrassed, you’re not willing to be great. The biggest risk of our twenties would be never taking any risks at all.” – Paul Angone, author of 101 Secrets for your Twenties, founder

10. Accept failure. “The number one thing I learned about how to make the most of your 20s was to accept failure and welcome it as the stepping stone success. Fortunately, I had many opportunities in my 20s to learn this lesson. My later success would not have been possible without learning from these early failures. At the time I wouldn’t have minded fewer failures, but they’re not only part of life, they’re a valuable part of life.” – Arianna Huffington, author, Chair, President and Editor-in-Chief of Huffington Post

11. Stop talking and start listening. “Our default during this time can sometimes to be to assume we know most of the answers. Even if you do, the outlook, perspective, vantage point (right or wrong) of another will expand your horizon and context. Go into everything with a humble assumption that you can learn something from every single person in the room, then listen first and ask questions after.” – Azita Ardakani, Founder,LoveSocial

12. Look ahead. “Being behind isn’t about comparing yourself to other people. You’re behind in your 20s if you can’t get the life you want for yourself by your 30s or 40s. Dare to be intentional with your life, and to be real with yourself about what you think you may want in 10 years. If that’s too scary, ask this question: If I keep living my life exactly as I am now, do I like where I’ll be in five years? If not, then something needs to change because that’s where you’re on track to wind up.” – Meg Jay, clinical psychologist and author of The Defining Decade: Why Your 20s Matter – and How to Make the Most of Them Now

13. Make time to stop and reflect. “Reflecting will allow you to see the signs that the world is giving you about your purpose. Once you find that purpose, jump at every opportunity to live for your purpose. And hold on tight because it’s going to be a bumpy ride.” – Rey Faustino, CEO and Founder, One Degree

14. Don’t take yourself too seriously. “I think the best way to make the most of your 20s is to not waste time being anxious. I had so many new experiences in my 20s, both personally and professionally. I was able to enjoy myself the most when I didn’t let nerves get in the way. Most of the stuff I was worried about never happened anyway!” – Anya Wallach, Producer, The Random Farms Kids’ Theater

15. Discover your purpose and origin. “If you believe in a Creator, then know your Creator in order to discover your Created Purpose. If you don’t believe in a Creator, then believe there’s a legitimate reason why you were put on the planet. That gives you genuine purpose. And purpose is a fuel that’s non-toxic to yourself and others.” – Alice Rhee, two-time Emmy winning TV producer, Senior Producer, PostTV

16. Choose your friends wisely. “The biggest lesson I learned in my twenties was to look around at the people I was hanging out with. Are they using their time and talents wisely? Have they decided what and who they want to be in life? Your circle of influence defines who you are.” – Amy Palmer, multiple Emmy-nominated TV host, Founder & CEO of PowerwomenTV

17. Know that you’re more than your job. “In your 20s, it’s easy to rush through life to get as much as you can as quickly as possible. We like to push themselves to the limit, throw ourselves in the fire and never think we are never going to get burnt. But we do. Instead, think about what makes you happy. You are more than your job. You are a multi-faceted person. Slow down, breathe, and take the time to realize you can create your own happiness in your life, and that doesn’t just mean in your job.” – Amanda Slavin, CEO & Founder, Catalyst Creativ

18. Be honest. “I learned to make the most of my 20s by being honest with myself, honest with my relationships, and honest with how I see myself in society. This alone has created an unequivocal sense of freedom.” – Tinia Pina, Founder and CEO, Re-Nuble

19. Realize that your 20s are going to fly by. “No joke. The time is going to pass anyway. You’ll be 30 before you know it. And when you wake up 30, the only question will be whether you gave it your all. Just go for it! You might fail, but at least you had the guts to try. If there’s something you want to do, then just go do it! Don’t wait.” – Gene Gurkoff, Founder, Charity Miles

20. Don’t rush. “So many people in their 20s are in a hurry to get to where they want to be: graduated, established, promoted, in love. Your 20s are a time where it is ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Don’t be in a rush to be who you are going to be. Just enjoy being who you are.” – Alicia Quarles, New York Correspondent, E! News

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