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I am really trying to fulfill my purpose in life and that is helping people live their best lives. My true concentration is for women and girls to know their worth in this world. So, if any of you have any functions that is geared towards women’s empowerment that you need speakers for,  I will do it at no charge. I am on the east coast so if it is  anything where I will have to travel further than the east coast I will need advanced notice because I do have a day job. So, guys,  let me know if you need me because I really want to help.

Thanks so much,

Kim

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Mothers & Daughters

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By Kim Seabrooks

The mother- daughter relationship can be tricky. So many mothers and daughters have a poor relationship with each other. This article discusses the top twelve reasons of why the mother- daughter relationship is so difficult and what you can do about it.

#1: You’re waiting for something to happen, but you’re not doing anything to make it happen.

Make the first move! Don’t wait for the other person; do it yourself! If you just wait and wait for your relationship to get better, nothing will happen, and you’ll always be waiting. Take some initiative and call your mother or daughter! Have lunch, talk, just do something!

#2: Maybe you need to change.

It’s easy for us to think that we’re perfect, but sometimes we’re the ones that need to change. Even if you can’t change the other person, you can change yourself. You can change your actions and also your responses. This alone can change your relationship—if your mother or daughter sees that you have changed, they may be inspired to do so also.

#3: Your expectations are unrealistic.

You have to keep your expectations realistic. If you don’t, no matter how much progress you’ve made in your relationship, it will never seem good enough. Accept each other for who you are and go with it from there. Life’s not a fairy tale, so don’t expect it to be like one!

#4: You’re not communicating.

One of the main reasons for poor mother- daughter relationships is poor communication. Voice your concerns, but do it in a loving, respectful manner. Say what you need to say, but do it kindly. This will do great things for your relationship! You’ll feel better that what you needed to say is off your chest, and you’ll also grow closer because you’ll know each other’s thoughts and feelings.

#5: You’re not listening.

Listening is an integral part in any kind of relationship, so it’s really no surprise that it’s important in a mother- daughter relationship. Listen to what you’re mother or daughter has to say, then respond in a way that makes the other feel like they’ve been listened to and are being heard. Also, don’t just listen to the words; listen to the way the words are being said. The way words are said is often the real messaging being put across.

#6: You’re not trying to fix your problems soon enough.

You’re going to get in some fights and have some disagreements. It’s inevitable. However, don’t let these issues fester! Get them resolved as soon as possible so they don’t turn into bigger issues! This is an area that affects all types of relationships—not just mother- daughter relationships. If you can’t get your issues resolved, you’re not going to have a good relationship with anybody.

#7: You’re not being considerate.

Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Would you like to be treated the way you’re treating them? You can say and do the exact same things but do it in a nice way that doesn’t hurt the other. Instead of saying, “Stop calling me, mother! You know I’m busy!” when she calls you three times throughout the week to see if you’re free for lunch, say, “Thanks for wanting to spend time with me, but I’m really busy this week. Maybe next week?” You can get the same message across but in a way that you would like someone to say it to you.

#8: You’re not forgiving!

No body’s perfect. People are going to hurt you at times—it’s just part of life. If you want to keep people in your life and have strong, healthy relationships, you’re going to need to learn how to forgive. You can’t remember and dwell on every single, little wrong thing that someone has ever done to you. Get over it. People mess up. Forgive them so the both of you can move on with your lives. Chances are you’ve done people wrong in the past too, and need them to forgive you!

#9: Your relationship isn’t balanced.

You and your mother or daughter need to balance your individuality and closeness. You need to figure out how to be your own person and still have a good relationship. Sometimes in the mother- daughter relationship, the mother has a hard time understanding that her daughter is an adult, and this could cause her to seem a bit bossy and demanding. Sometimes the daughter forgets that even though she’s an adult, she should still respect her mother. Remember who you are, who the other person in the relationship is, and respect that.

#10: You just need to agree to disagree.

Sometimes you’ll come to a disagreement and simply not be able to agree. Instead of letting the disagreement turn into to an argument, just agree to disagree. Respect each other’s opinions, and end the discussion. It really doesn’t matter who “wins” the argument—especially when winning is at the cost of your relationship.

#11: You dwell on the past.

This goes hand- in- hand with forgiving. You can’t dwell on the past and stay mad at your mother or daughter for things that have happened long ago. People aren’t perfect, and sometimes they’ll do things that hurt you. Try to focus on what they’re doing now. Maybe now they’re trying really hard to make the relationship better, maybe they’re trying to make up for their past actions. Focus on that—everything else is irrelevant.

#12: You’re not saying what you think you’re saying.

If a mother says to her daughter, “You’re going down the wrong path with this guy! You need to…”, all the daughter is going to hear is an attack on her. The mother could get across the message by saying, “I feel that it’s in your best interest to…” Make hard conversations like these more personal by saying “I” and “me”—your words will sound less like an attack.

In this article, I’ve discussed several aspects of the mother- daughter relationship. Now that you know and understand these reasons that the mother- daughter relationship can be so difficult, you can recognize these issues in your own mother- daughter relationship and try to fix them. I hope this article has been helpful to you and will give you the tools you need to be able to improve your relationship with your mother or daughter!

 

 

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Please Do Not Forget!

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GRAND RAPIDS, MI – Fifty years ago, Martin Luther King Jr. led the March on Washington, a political rally of some 200,000 to 300,000 people to the nation’s capital, where King, standing in front of the Lincoln Memorial, delivered his historic “I Have a Dream” speech.

PBS-TV including WGVU-TV Channel 35 in Grand Rapids tonight has special broadcasting in connection with the 50th anniversary of the Aug. 28, 1963, event that paved the way for the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965.

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Tune in tonight to these PBS-TV stations in Michigan

• WCML Channel 24 in Alpena
• WCMV Channel 17 in Cadillac
• WTVS-TV Channel 56 in Detroit
• WKAR-TV Channel 23 in East Lansing
• WCMZ Channel 28 in Flint
• WGVU-TV Channel 35 in Grand Rapids
• WGVK-TV Channel 52 in Kalamazoo
• WCMW Channel 21 in Manistee
WDCQ-TV Channel 15 in University Center

 

Queen Latifah, Morgan Freeman and Denzel Washington emcee and narrate a series of broadcasts beginning at 8 p.m. August 27, 2013, on WGVU-TV 35-1.

Read More;  http://www.mlive.com/tv/index.ssf/2013/08/50th_anniversary_of_martin_lut.html

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My Hometown: 5 Reasons You Should Visit Detroit Right Now

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By Kirsten Alana

Amanda Williams wrote a great article here on the RoamRight blog last month about three places all travelers should visit in Middle America. Her choices of Chicago, St. Louis and Pittsburgh were good. I have been to all three and each have wonderful things to offer visitors. However, her article got me thinking about other places in the Midwest that are often underrated or undervalued as tourist destinations and as soon as I did I realized Detroit is the number one place I would recommend. It has been the recipient of a lot of bad press lately and it doesn’t have the best reputation but a recent visit to the city showed me there is a lot more going on in Metro Detroit, meaning Detroit and the suburbs that surround it, than anyone is giving it credit for. So, here are five reasons that I believe you should visit Detroit, right now.

1. Craft Beer

Breweries abound within the city of Detroit and in the suburbs surrounding it. Some have been around for a long time but others are new. Traffic Jam & Snug in Midtown Detroit grows their own hops on the side of the building and has been happily serving patrons since 1965. Their Mitt Wit is a terrific Belgian Style Wheat Ale and I highly recommend it. Just across the street, Motor City Brewing is just one of the other breweries you’ll visit if you book with Steve of Motor City Brew Tours; whether you choose to walk, bike or take the bus, he’ll give you the best insight into Michigan’s craft brew culture. For a little something different, visit Ferndale’s B. Nektar Meadery to learn about honey wine. Craft spirits also are gaining in importance and bars like Sugar House, in Detroit’s Corktown neighborhood, are helping to lead the movement.

2. Urban Farming

One thing that is accurate in the recent reports about Detroit is that the city has a lot of empty lots and unused land after years of damaging house fires and unabated decay. What’s left out of such stories is that all over the city those same vacant lots are now being turned into urban farms so that local residents, restaurants and chefs have easy access to fresh produce grown sometimes steps from their front doors. Some even have gardens on top of their buildings or homes in a 21st version of the Liberty Garden. This movement is helped by the group who manages Eastern Market (the oldest farmer’s market in the United States) as well as several other organizations, and it has begun to revolutionize the restaurant culture within the city inspiring a whole new farm-to-table movement that has even prompted some chefs to migrate to the city from places like New York.

3. Downtown Development

Many businesses are moving to Detroit because the economic situation has caused an abundance of affordable real estate and other incentives that have caused a chain reaction of downtown development. Companies like Quicken Loans encourage employees to live downtown and bike to the office. This has spurred a larger than average availability of bicycles and a system that supports safe biking all over the city. New restaurants are opening downtown to serve workers, free concerts are occurring in the heart of the city and Campus Martius Parkhas opened a beach for use during warm months. All of these things, and more, not only benefit employees but visitors to the city as well.

4. Shopping

Shinola is just one of the recent companies to purposely choose to do business in Detroit. Their watch manufacturing facility, where each item is assembled by hand, is in the restored Argonaut building downtown but their showroom is where the watches, bicycles and hand stitched leather goods can be purchased and it too is in the heart of the city. I visited multiple times and every time I did, it was very crowded. Also in Midtown are stores like NestCity BirdNoraHugh and Flo. All could easily compete with boutiques in cities such as New York or LA. Their owners have impeccable taste and curate collections that will entice any visitor to buy an extra suitcase for the journey home!

5. Art and History Museums

The museums in Metro Detroit are amongst the best in the world. The Detroit Institute of Arts on Woodward Avenue has Rodin’s ‘The Thinker’, Diego Rivera’s ‘Detroit Industry’ frescoes, paintings by John Singer Sergent, Matisse, Van Gogh, Degas, Rembrandt and so many more. Its weekly Friday Night Live! keeps the museum open late for live music, art-making workshops, drawing in the galleries, guided tours and much more. The Henry Ford is a collection that includes the history museum, a historical village and the Ford Rouge Factory tour as well as an IMAX theater. The museum is popularly called, “America’s Greatest History Attraction” and with so much under one roof that it rivals the Smithsonian, that’s not an empty claim. The MoTown Museum and Hitsville USAcontain Studio A, Barry Gordy’s apartment and a vast collection of musical memorabilia that helps to remind any visitor just how large a part Detroit played in the evolution of American music; it’s incredibly enlightening.Cranbrook is a leading center for education, science and art with its graduate programs, contemporary Art Museum, Saarinen House and Gardens, natural history museum and Institute of Science. Together, they form one of the most unusual and incredible destinations for inspiration and learning that I have ever visited.

This is a time where travel to Detroit and travel within the metro area is more affordable and more accessible than ever. New hotels are opening and historic properties such as the Book Cadillac are reopening under the management of chains such as Westin Hotels. Head to the Visit Detroit website to learn even more!

Read More:  http://www.roamright.com/travel-tips-and-news/5-reasons-you-should-visit-detroit-right-now/

Women’s News: You Can Get Over Your Eating Issues — These 4 Women Are Proof

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We recently asked HuffPost Women readers to tell us how they’ve overcome their eating issues. That’s right — despite the multitude of influences encouraging us to think food and our bodies are the problem, there are women who refuse to believe that. We don’t hear from those women enough.

Here are four of the amazing responses we received. We hope you find their stories as inspiring as we did.

“Dieting meant you were ‘good,’ ‘obedient’ and ‘worthy.'”

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I have dealt with food issues my entire life… all 23 years of it. I come from a family of very body-conscious women. My grandma, [five] aunts and mother were/are always on “cleanses,” “flushes,” and straight-up crash diets. They ran 10 miles every day. That’s all I ever knew. Dieting meant you were “good” “obedient” and “worthy.” Eating carbs meant you were “bad” “weak” and “sinful.”From the ages of 18-22, I consumed food and food consumed me. I dealt with anorexia, binge eating disorder, and compulsive over-eating. Food would be the first thing I thought of when I woke up, and the last thing I thought about before bed. The guilt of eating something off-limits killed me every hour of every day, and I wondered if I would ever have normal eating habits. I struggled with depression and thyroid disease. I was a mess. I hated what I saw in the mirror.

I finally sought counseling. It changed my life. I had to change my way of thinking–I had to stop expecting perfection. Today, I eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I eat because it makes my body strong and it makes my body function properly. I’m done being mean to myself. I think of food in a much better light. It is no longer the enemy.

On a Friday night, if I want to splurge on gin and tonics and a burrito, then I’m gonna do it, dammit. I am not alone when it comes to food issues. In this society, it is something every single woman has to deal with. We are expected to do it all, and to do it all perfectly. Well, sorry, dude, that’s not going to happen. I can’t be perfect, and I can’t always eat perfectly.

The key, as cliche as it sounds, is to start loving yourself from within. Every freaking part of you. Be extra kind to yourself every single day. Once you truly put your happiness and health first, the fixation with food disappears. That’s what happened with me. I stopped putting so much pressure on myself to be perfect. I started loving myself.

-Lauren, 23

 

“Food is fuel, not a score.”

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Being 23, I’m used to technology being a tool I can use to obsess over food, weight, and calories. There are tons of apps about exercise and weight loss and calorie counting and motivation, so many it almost makes you guilty: “If it’s so easy to obsess over a perfect body, why AREN’T you doing it?” I went through a few phases where I was constantly logging calories on my phone, calculating and re-calculating how much I could eat based on daily exercise. And one day I said, This is stupid. Food is fuel, not a score. Treats are to be enjoyed, not bargained for.I do follow a few basic rules: I’m a vegan, I don’t keep any sugar in the house, I run and do yoga regularly. These things keep me healthy and happy without feeling restricted. But if I go out with my boyfriend, we’re getting dessert. If I wake up with a sore leg, I’ll skip a run. I’ve witnessed “breaks” in meals where everyone whips out their smart phones to log their calories, and I vow to never be in that place again. I’m not perfect. I’ll never be perfect. But I’m healthy and I’m happy and that, in my opinion, is more than enough.

-Maggie, age 23

 

“I don’t want body image to take over their lives like it took over mine”

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I’ve had food issues as long as I can remember. My grandmother called [me] fat, my father called me fat, my mom constantly made an issue of what I was eating. All of them had their own issues with weight and took it out on me. As a little kid I was never “fat.” I was tall, the tallest girl in the class, always called “big.” I have a twin sister who is “petite.” The comparisons still sting to this day.I went up and down with weight and exercise my whole life. I’m now 36 and a mom to two beautiful kids. My mission as a [mother] is not to continue the damage my family caused me. I don’t make food an issue. We do our best to eat healthy, but we don’t have guilt when we splurge. We enjoy all things. Body parts are beautiful in every shape and size. If I don’t love and accept my body, my daughter and son won’t love and accept theirs. I will model good habits of eating well and exercising and splurging too. It’s so liberating once you let go of all that guilt and fear.It may be a daily battle to fight the messages the media puts out there, but my kids will have enough to worry about in their lives. I don’t want body image to take over their lives like it took over mine.

-Lindsey, 36

 

“I know what’s good for me, and my body tells me the rest”

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I was bulimic starting from about age 17. Binging was my release, and purging was a way to regain control. I stopped on my own, for the most part, when I was about 22, without seeking help. When I was about 23, I went to Weight Watchers with my mom. I also began training for marathons. This was the worst combination. I found I had no control despite WW, and even all of my training still found me well above my healthy weight. When I started vomiting again, I stopped [Weight Watchers] because I had promised myself I wouldn’t purge.When I stopped dieting, I started to change my relationship with food. When I stopped trying to control and took the time to listen to what my body was telling me, I lost the weight. I’m still running and exercising, in fact I’m “top physically fit” among my peers in the Army. But the difference came when I made the effort to listen: Am I hungry? Am I full? And asking the question: Will life go on if I leave this pile food on my plate?

Honestly, I fear regulating my food anymore. I know what is good for me, and my body tells me the rest. I know it’s no magic fix, and it seems too easy, but when I took the neurosis away from the idea of food, I found my peace.

-Jessie, 32

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/27/you-can-get-over-eating-issues-these-women-proof_n_3819118.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Women’s News: Why Do Women Cheat?

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By Kim Seabrooks

Why woman cheat is a very interesting topic of discussion, as the reasons why women cheat are much different than the reasons men cheat. This article will discuss the top four reasons why women cheat on their partners. If anyone can think any others reasons, please let us know.

 

#1: She feels ignored and unloved.

The main reason that women cheat on their partners is not for physical gratification, but for emotional gratification. If a woman feels that her partner doesn’t care about her, doesn’t really love her, or ignores her, she is going to try to find someone else that will care about her, love her, and not ignore her. This is why most women, when they cheat, fall in love with or think they have fallen in love with the person they have cheated with—they feel that that person understands them, loves them, will appreciate them, and not ignore them.

#2: She’s not satisfied sexually.

Although emotional gratification is more likely the reason for a woman to cheat that sexual gratification, a woman still may cheat because she is not sexually satisfied. Even if the woman and her partner are regularly having sex, the woman may not feel that they are really making love. Also, the woman might find that having sex with new, different men is more exciting than only having sex with one person.

#3: She’s getting revenge.

If a woman is hurt or angry about her partner’s past actions, she might cheat to get back at them. Women who are treated poorly, are in a loveless relationship, or are abused by their partners may find that cheating is a way of revenge or even rebellion against them.

#4: She’s doesn’t respect her partner.

A woman may cheat on her partner because she has lost respect for them. A woman can lose respect for her partner for a number of different reasons, including the reasons already listed above: she is being ignored, she feels unloved, she is not being sexually satisfied, she is treated poorly, and/ or she is abused. Other reasons could be that her partner is not making as much money as they did in the past, her partner has gained some weight, or her partner no longer exhibits one or several of the characteristics she once loved best about her partner. When this becomes the case, a woman may look for someone that makes more money, is in better physical shape, or possessed the characteristics that she misses in her partner.

 

These top four reasons why women cheat give you a bit of insight into the minds of women. Now that you’re in the know about why women cheat, you can use this information in your relationship to make sure that you’re treating your girl right so she won’t cheat on you!

 

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Women’s News: 12 Things Successful Women Do Differently

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Every woman has her own definition of success. But there are certain traits that most successful women share.

I spend a good part of my work day reading and writing about women who have achieved great things — and I make it a point to surround myself with women who are well on their way to doing so.

Here are 12 things I’ve learned that successful women do differently:

1. They are deeply passionate about what they do.
“Without passion, all the skill in the world won’t lift you above craft,” wrote dancer Twyla Tharp in her book, The Creative Habit. If you don’t love what you do, you’re probably not going to be motivated to go above and beyond, to innovate and to stand out in the workplace. But if you’re passionate about your career, it will make putting time and effort into it pleasurable, not a chore.

2. They don’t expect perfection — of themselves or those around them.
Research has shown that wasting time and energy trying to be “perfect” only leads to unhappiness. Successful women know that that they can’t do everything well all the time. Beating yourself up for your perceived flaws will only dampen your abilities at work, not to mention your mental health. “We each, if we’re lucky, will have our chance to leave a mark on the world, but we are trying too hard to be perfect,” wrote Barnard president Debora Spar in an op-ed for Glamour magazine. “So don’t emulate Wonder Woman; think about what’s wonderful to you instead. Then boldly, audaciously, joyfully, leave the rest behind.”

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3. Often, they become the boss.
Many successful women have figured out that if you’re the boss, you can set your own rules. As editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan Joanna Coles said at the Third Metric Conference in June: “The higher you go in a corporation, the easier it is … The truth is you get more control.” And when you’re in control, you have the ability to create a more sane, happy and balanced workplace for yourself and your employees.

4. They marry well — or not at all.
Successful women know the value of a true partnership. As Sheryl Sandberg observed in Lean In: “I don’t know of a single woman in a leadership position whose life partner is not fully — and I mean fully — supportive of her career.” And many successful women forgo marriage all together. Despite not being wed, women like Oprah Winfrey, Condoleezza Rice and Diane Keaton seem to be doing just fine.

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5. They believe that they will be successful.
Not to go all “If you build it, he will come,” on you, but believing in your own success — no matter how crazy your idea might seem — is integral to achieving it.Kay Koplovitz, founder of the USA Network, echoed this sentiment in a July interview. “You have to be comfortable that you can think your way through and actually execute your way through to the desired outcome,” she said. “I expected to be successful.” Bottom line? Confidence — and faith in yourself — is key.

6. They’re not afraid to take risks.
Sheryl Sandberg says that all women should ask themselves the question: “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” Affecting change — in your career and beyond — requires the ability to stop playing it safe every once in awhile. Successful women don’t make reckless decisions, but they do know how to take a calculated risk. Sandberg took her own advice, and wrote the bestseller, Lean In.

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7. They know that failure goes hand-in-hand with success. 
Failure is not the opposite of success but a stepping stone to success,” was the advice given to Arianna Huffington by her mother, Elli Stassinopoulos. Successful women know that you can’t excel all the time, and that an inevitable part of taking leaps in your career is falling down sometimes. For example, 12 publishers rejected J.K. Rowling’s first Harry Potter book. But that didn’t stop her from continuing to send it out.

8. They take care of themselves physically.
“My morning run is when my head is most clear and when I synthesize all of the things that are going on in my head,” Jessica Herrin, founder of Stella and Dot, told The Huffington Post. Many successful women have spoken about the value of regular exercise — not because they are trying to be thin, but because they know that exercise relieves stress, releases endorphins and increases energy. “If I didn’t run, swim, or lift weights, I almost certainly would have killed someone by this point in my life,” wrote Debora Spar.

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9. They know that their to-do lists will never be completed, and they’re okay with that.
Sometimes you can be more productive by accepting that you’re simply not going to get everything done. Learning to let go of certain goals, responsibilities and tasks can be difficult, but freeing. Arianna Huffington has spoken about how finally allowing herself to cross unrealistic goals off her lifelong “to do” list — in her case, learning German and becoming an expert skiier — relieved her of a huge burden. “Getting rid of the anxiety of perpetually unmet expectations was so great,” she said.

10. They make sure to schedule alone time.
Research has shown that women tend to prioritize domestic responsibilities such as housework and child care over themselves. Successful women know that they need to schedule alone time the same way they plan meetings, family dinners and networking events. “I’ve found if I don’t literally put pen to paper (or create a Google calendar appointment) and carve out an hour for myself, it never happens,” Mary Kate McGrath, editor in chief of PureWow told The Daily Muse in March. “So that’s what I do. I literally invite myself to manicures or an extra 20 minutes in bed, and I’ve been known to take myself out for a Manhattan once in a while, too. (I’m a great date.) And my new rule: I’m not allowed to cancel on myself.”

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11. They know how to foster genuine relationships — and keep them strong.
Having a support network is key to being successful. Keeping up your friendships and forming new ones at every place you work makes you happier and helps your career later on. In 2009, Diablo Cody told the New York Times about the importance of her relationships with fellow female filmmakers Lorene Scafaria, Dana Fox and Liz Meriwether. “They helped me be excited for things when I was kind of shellshocked,” she said. “They were the ones who had to literally take me aside at the ‘Juno’ premiere and say: ‘This is fun. You will never forget this. Please enjoy yourself.'”

12. They express gratitude to those around them.
No woman’s success happens in a vacuum. Wildly successful women acknowledge those that support them every day — both in their home lives and at the office. And that graciousness not only makes them better people, but fosters loyalty from their employees. Oprah is one powerful woman who understands the value of appreciating her employees. In 2009, she took her entire staff and their families on a Mediterranean cruise.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/26/things-successful-women-do-differently_n_3787406.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

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