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A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

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Women’s News: Julie Harris, Goldman Sachs Managing Director, Talks Female Role Models And Improv Comedy

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As women continue moving into the higher ranks of jobs traditionally filled by men, they have to figure out how best to pave the way for others.

Julie Harris, a managing director at Goldman Sachs, spoke to Michelle Clark at the Glass Hammer this week about what she’s learned as a woman working in a male-dominated field.

“I never had a lot of senior level female role models until I came to Goldman Sachs,” Harris told Clark. “So I had to be that senior role model. You have to learn that the way you carry yourself matters, and you can’t lose sight of who you are in the process.”

Harris, who is actively involved in the LGBT network at Goldman Sachs, also revealed that she tries not to let gender inequality affect her job performance or goals: “I’ve always picked industries where I knew I would be judged on my performance and where you got by on what you delivered.”

In a 2008 interview with the Kellogg School of Management alumni magazine(Harris received her MBA from Kellogg in 1995), Harris explained that her background in improv comedy provided her with one of the mantras she lives by: “You won’t learn if you don’t try.”

Amen to that, Julie.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/27/julie-harris-goldman-sachs_n_3509919.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

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Women’s News: Elena Raouna, Miss British Beauty Curve 2013, Has A Message For Young Women

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The winner of the Miss British Beauty Curve 2013 competition has an important message about body image, which she’s determined to share with women around the world.

Elena Raouna, 22, was crowned the winner of the British pageant for plus-size young women after entering the competition on Facebook. In an interview with the Daily Mail, Raouna stressed that “you don’t have to be size zero to be a model, and you can be pretty and plus size at the same time.”

“My confidence has grown over the years and hopefully I can inspire other plus-size girls to be confident in their own skin,” she added.

Raouna is not the only notable plus-size woman encouraging young girls of all sizes to celebrate and accept their bodies. In April, plus-size model Jennie Runk was celebrated in the news for appearing on the main page of the H&M website modeling swimwear. In a piece for the BBC, Runk wrote of the media attention: “This is exactly the kind of thing I’ve always wanted to accomplish, showing women that it’s OK to be confident even if you’re not the popular notion of ‘perfect.’… There’s no need to glamorise one body type and slam another.”

Raouna hopes to use her new platform to help girls struggling with their self-esteem, and Tweeted her appreciation for the positive messages she has received:

“If I can give girls who struggle with their weight the confidence that everyone is beautiful in their different ways, inside and out, then that is great for me,” she told the Mail.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/27/elena-raouna_n_3512021.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Women’s News: Nora Ephron Remembered: 6 Amazing Women Who Were Influenced By The Iconic Writer

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“She pulled a fast one on us… I guess sometimes you have to wait for someone to leave the room to say how great they are,” said Meryl Streep last year at Nora Ephron’s memorial service in New York City. It’s been exactly one year since the iconic journalist and screenwriter passed away and none of us have gotten over the fact that she’s gone — or stopped talking about how fabulous she was.

Ephron was a trailblazer in so many ways. She began her career as a journalist at the New York Post and moved on to Esquire magazine during the 1970s. Next she turned to screenwriting and directing, and by 1994 Ephron had racked up three Academy Award nominations for penning “Silkwood,” “Sleepless In Seattle” and “When Harry Met Sally.” Her films came to define what a quality romantic comedy could be during the ’80s and ’90s.

Besides being an obvious and rare talent, Nora Ephron had an infectious energy and aimed to pass her wisdom onto other women. In a 1996 commencement speech at Wellesley college Ephron said: “Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women.”

On the first anniversary of her death, we’ve rounded up a list of successful women who Ephron helped “make a little trouble” in the world:

 

Diablo Cody

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In an interview with The Daily Beast’s Marlow Stern last year, Cody, who wrote “Juno” and “Young Adult,” reflected on how much Ephron paved the way for female writers :

I always wanted to be a writer, but at the time I don’t think it ever occurred to me to write movies. When I first saw “When Harry Met Sally,” for me, it was just pure entertainment; there was no sense of the filmmaker, which is the best kind of film. You believe the people are real, and you are completely lost in their relationships. When I first started writing screenplays, her work was something to aspire to. The best possible version of a scene is “the Nora Ephron version.”

 

 

Mindy Kaling

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Kaling has always been open about her love and adoration for romantic comedies — specifically romantic comedies by Nora Ephron. In September 2010, she sat down with Vulture to watch “You’ve Got Mail.” “I was very intimidated by New York and I didn’t know it very well, and this movie really helped me, it made me fall in love with the city,” she said. “It’s such a love letter to New York. I went to all the places in the film.”

The actress and writer transferred that rom-com spirit to her own TV show, “The Mindy Project.” The first episode features the lead character, Dr. Mindy Lahiri, discussing a series of Ephron’s films. And after Ephron’s death, Kaling told Zap2It: “Nora’s passing was so devastating for us, and especially the writing staff, because she was such an amazing writer and obviously such an inspiration for the show.”

 

Lena Dunham

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After Ephron passed away, the “Girls” creator wrote a beautiful tribute to her in the New Yorker detailing their year and a half long friendship — and Ephron’s timeless influence. Dunham confessed that Ephron’s film “This Is My Life” was “the movie that made me want to make movies.” She also wrote about the small and large ways in which Ephron informed her personal life:

Her advice was unparalleled. At one of our lunches this past January, I was sheepishly describing a male companion’s lack of support for my professional endeavors. She nodded in a very “don’t be stupid” way, as if I already knew what I had to do: “You can’t possibly meet someone right now. When I met Nick, I was already totally notorious … and he understood exactly what he was getting into. You can’t meet someone until you’ve become what you’re becoming.”

 

 

Meryl Streep

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Streep was a long-time friend of Ephron’s — after all she played a fictionalized version of Ephron in “Heartburn” — and it was a friendship from which the actress learned a lot. “You could call on [Nora Ephron] for anything: doctors, restaurants, recipes, speeches, or just a few jokes, and we all did it, constantly,” Streep told the NYTimes in an email last June. “She was an expert in all the departments of living well.”

 

Jennifer Weiner

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The bestselling author credited Ephron’s work and spirit for making her own career path possible:

You can write about this stuff? I thought. You can be frank and funny and identifiably Jewish, totally honest about who you are and what you’re thinking about? You don’t have to don the literary equivalent of a Tom Wolfe suit to be published or pretend you’re a man, with a man’s concerns and a man’s voice, to get attention? My 12-year-old mind was officially blown. That story — and Ephron’s inimitable voice, wry and sharp but never condescending or cynical — stayed with me.

 

 

Rita Wilson

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Wilson, like Streep, knew Ephron on a personal level for years and had roles in several of her films (see: “Sleepless In Seattle” and “Mixed Nuts”). Last summer Wilson wrote a beautiful piece for Huff/Post50 — of which she is an editor-at-large — about their friendship and how Ephron inspired her to write:

Seven years ago Nora mentored me through the process of writing my first article. She read every draft and helped edit it. She said something I had never heard before but now believe all journalists must know. She said when writing something, all you needed to do was, “Tell them what you’re going to tell them, tell them, and then tell them what you told them.” She never complained about my calls and emails asking her about an idea, or a question I had, or if she thought whatever I was working on worked. She always had time. Eventually, like any amazing teacher, she made me believe I could do it on my own. Once again, she had faith in me before I had faith in me.

 We miss you Nora. And your words still inspire us every day.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/24/nora-ephron-remembered-women-influenced_n_3492579.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

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Women’s News: Are Single Women Discriminated Against At Work?

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Margaret Wheeler Johnson

Women’s Editor

Your coworker with a 3-year-old leaves at 5:30 every evening, while you stay until 7:30 (at least). You’re asked to take a weekend shift or field Saturday conference calls because everyone else on your team has kids they need to spend time with. When an issue needs to be troubleshot after six, you are somehow always the only one available, and it’s made clear that your date plans are not a priority.

If this sounds like you, you may be the victim of what a recent Marie Claire article calls “the newest form of workplace discrimination: single women who carry an undue burden at the office, batting cleanup for their married-with-kids coworkers.”

The way writer Ayana Byrd describes the phenomenon, as employers have gotten used to working parents leaving at a reasonable hour and not working weekends, they’ve also gotten used to single staffers, particularly single women, picking up the work that employees with kids won’t get to. The result for those single women is no personal life, which limits both their overall well-being and their ability to meet a prospective spouse and have children of their own.

Even if single men face the same dilemma — the article, titled “The Single Girl’s Second Shift,” doesn’t really go into that — it’s easy to see how single women are especially vulnerable to it. The most popular job for American women as of 2010 is still secretary/administrative assistant, which has been a top ten job for women for the last 50 years. We’re historically conditioned to think of female workers as those who support other workers. At the same time, women have just been told resoundingly to “lean in” to their careers — to be as ambitious as they can, which can very easily translate into saying yes to whatever project is handed to them.

Byrd’s piece bears a few overarching messages. One is that employers need to remedy the blatantly unfair practice of assigning some employees more work and longer hours based on their marital status and whether they have kids. Another is that this “second shift” — an allusion to the title of Arlie Hochschild’s watershed 1989 book on how working mothers also do the majority of domestic chores in their households — is indicative of a workplace culture that no longer believes anyone deserves relaxation or fun for their own sakes. As Kat Stoeffel at The Cut pointed out, the women courageous enough to go on the record in Byrd’s article as wanting to work less all said they want time off for self-improvement. The third and pretty explicit message is that women need to say no to the extra work, and while this last directive sounds empowering, parts of it are problematic.

For one thing, saying no to what you’re assigned simply isn’t possible in some cases, especially in a fragile economy with high unemployment. Some of the recommended strategies for saying no may not be practical either. Sylvia Ann Hewlett, founder of theCenter for Talent Innovation, formerly the Center for Work-Life Policy, suggested seeking out a childless senior woman to advise you on how broach the issue with your boss. But what if there is no such person, or what if she never felt like she was in a position to push back, either?

Another issue is the way career consultant Liz Ryan described the second shift to Byrd, as though it’s somehow women’s fault. “No one respects the people who are slaves to the job,” she told Byrd. But when you push back, “Be prepared to show that your work won’t suffer,” the article advises. Stoeffel at The Cut added that if you don’t push back and work longer hours without being paid more, “You’re a sucker.”

Did you get all of that? Ask not to work as much and make sure you’re not seen as someone who works all the time, but produce the same quality and/or amount of work. So the message to stand up for yourself gets transformed into, “Get the same amount done in less time, because no one likes someone who looks like she’s trying too hard.” That sounds a lot like yet another manifestation of the cultural allergy to female strivers that has affected women across fields, from Anne Hathaway to Kirsten Gillibrand. Why can’t we strike a balance wherein it’s acceptable for women to be visibly ambitious and hardworking and for both women and men to admit that everyone deserves time to watch Bravo and drink margaritas outside?

We do need increased awareness of unfair demands put on single women at work, and it may be that change will only come when women speak up for themselves and “train” their bosses and coworkers to know that they are not available 24/7. But we also need to be careful not to line the prescription “do less work” with the message to just make it look like you’re doing less, which could mean hidden hours working at home and less sleep, and would only make employers think the women they’re overloading can take on more.

As Mika Brzezinski pointed out on HuffPost Live at The Huffington Post’s Third Metric conference, the last thing women need to hear one more time is, “Make it look easy.”

 

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