Women’s News: Delaying Marriage Has Serious Consequences For Some, New Research Reveals

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Men and women are marrying later in life than ever before, but a new study reveals the costs of delaying your “I dos.”

In a report released Friday, the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Projectfound that the average marrying age is at its highest ever: 26.5 for women and 28.7 for men. However, unmarried twenty-somethings reported higher rates of depression and drinking, and lower life satisfaction than their married peers.

Young adults are increasingly seeing marriage as something to do after they have gotten their “ducks in a row,” according to the study, rather than as a starting point for adulthood. Ninety-one percent of young adults surveyed said they believe financial independence must precede marriage. While delaying marriage can be beneficial for some — women earn an average of $18,000 a year more if they wait to marry until age 30 — these benefits are more pronounced for college graduates due to the shortage of good jobs for less-educated people.

“For the college-educated third of our population, [delaying marriage] has been a success. For the rest, including large swaths of Middle America, not so much,” said report co-author Kay Hymowitz in a press release.

A 2012 study by economic forecasting firm IHS Global Insight attributed rising college debt to young peoples’ decision to delay marriage. Another report, conducted in 2011 by Cornell University, suggested that fears of divorce may also be to blame.

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Comments

  1. Well my experience is very different. I married at 30+ after enjoying a spectacular single life…I certainly would not advise my children to marry young – go & do everything you want to do first is my motto. My mother married at 30 as well and that was in the fifties – very uncommon at that time. I feel you have so much more to offer your children having lived and fulfilled yourself first.

  2. what about the depression rate in couples married to soon that would be interesting no?

  3. Marriage isn’t an antiquated idea, but the fact of the matter is we live so much longer now it honestly makes sense to be self reliant and figure out what we, men and women, want before we settle into something that we promise to be tied to FOREVER. There is a give and take, people are appalled by the divorce rate and yet “stats or studies” show that depression is on the rise without marriage? Dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t.

    Thinking critically (as my Critical Thinking teacher encourages us to do) it is strange they never give a number or idea as to how they got that information but credit other studies for the possible reasons for depression “A 2012 study by economic forecasting firm IHS Global Insight attributed rising college debt to young peoples’ decision to delay marriage. Another report, conducted in 2011 by Cornell University, suggested that fears of divorce may also be to blame.” There is no way to know what this study is based on or if these things even correlate, maybe depression alone is on the rise.

    If it is true, I would think it is outside factors, social, media, and sometimes personal expectations are to blame. When I was 21 I was madly in love with my boyfriend (twelve years my senior), we intended on getting married and it dissolved by my doing; with the guidance of my parents. They believed I was too young to marry, he was too old, and we were not a good fit. My Mom began voicing her doubts about us and refusing to get together with his family because she didn’t want him to ask me to marry him in front of her. I voiced all of those things to my boyfriend and my parents went as far as moving to Europe and giving me no option but to go with them (which I would have any way), and in that my boyfriend and I decided to separate. Well more he decided that it was too much work fighting for a girl that wouldn’t stand up to her parents and say this is my life, so he left me.

    Skip ahead to my current relationship, we got together when I was 23 (he is also 12 years my senior), literally a day after I turned 25 my Dad asked me (heatedly I might add) when we planned on getting married; such a turnaround in only four years. I still don’t really understand why it is such a drastic change from 25 and 21; they are both very young ages. Next month I will be 28, and my family treats me like a spinster. I believe they expect me to get a bunch of cats, break up with my boyfriend of nearly five years, and live in squalor for the remainder of my days. Like I missed some invisible window and maybe I did, but I am no longer living in the shadow of their expectations. I love them wholeheartedly, but at the end of the day the person I know for sure that mandates my happiness is I and I alone. Maybe that is what really needs to be addressed; if you are unhappy or depressed (and not clinically so), turn your life around the only person you can expect anything from is yourself and don’t let other’s expectations drag you into the pits of their despair.

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