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Women’s News: Enlisting Men and Boys to Stop the Abuse of Women

Women’s News: Enlisting Men and Boys to Stop the Abuse of Women

Women’s Health: A Librarian’s Tips For A Healthy Heart

Women’s Health: A Librarian’s Tips For A Healthy Heart

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Women’s News: Enlisting Men and Boys to Stop the Abuse of Women

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By Caroline Linton

Domestic violence makes headlines every day, but it remains a hidden problem for many. From the NFL and Nascar to boardrooms, survivors are training a new generation to end the brutality.

The sad cycle of domestic violence has been dominating the news. Oscar Pistorius was released on bail Friday after shooting and killing his girlfriend, whom he had been accused of abusing during their relationship. Rihanna and Chris Brown vacationed together in Hawaii, despite his history of abusive behavior.

But for all of the headlines generated, who’s really talking to women and girls—and men—about the reality of abuse?

“I wanted to be a voice for these girls, because as big a topic as domestic violence is, you don’t talk about,” says Jasmine Villegas, 19 years old and a survivor of abuse in a previous relationship. She joined other activists Thursday at Verizon Wireless’s day-long summit devoted to shining light on the all-too-hidden problem.

Villegas spoke about trying to prevent domestic violence among teens, along withSharon Love, whose 21-year-old daughter Yeardley was killed by an abusive ex-boyfriend in a case that made national news. They were joined by Katie Ray-Jones, president of the National Domestic Violence Hotline / National Dating Abuse Helpline and Barton Erickson, program director of Preventing Abuse & Violence Education. Other panels focused on the effect PTSD in the military has had on domestic violence, the role of social media in stopping the violence—and how mobile technology can be used for the same purpose.

Verizon has taken an activist role in raising awareness of domestic violence. Chief Executive Dan Mead spearheaded the support of Telling Amy’s Story, a PBS documentary about a Pennsylvania store employee who was killed by her abusive husband. Through the Verizon Foundation, the company has given more than $179 million to domestic-violence charities since 2001. Among the luminaries at the conference: CBS Sports and News sportscaster James Brown, who has led a campaign aimed at men and boys to help stop violence against women by being part of the solution.

Mike Mason, Verizon’s chief security officer, says he became involved not just because of his company’s work—it was also personal. His sister was in an abusive relationship. He realized then how important it was for men to be involved—especially since Mason didn’t even know his sister was being beaten up by her husband.

As an adult, Gay has visited women’s shelters and even NFL locker rooms to relay his story and deliver his message: “there is no excuse to put your hands on a woman.”

Mason says he told his sister “you are not a potted plant—you have decisions you can make. Once you start to take control of your life, it can’t end at the hospital or the police department.”

Teaching boys about abuse is where Neil Irvin comes in. The executive director ofMen Can Stop Rape works with teen boys to teach them that masculinity is not about power over women—and that stopping abuse starts with men. Their motto, he says, is to bring boys to them before it becomes a problem.

At one of their youth-education programs, Irvin says one boy had been unable to grasp when watching a documentary about an abused woman that it wasn’t the victim’s fault. “He was still contributing to a rape culture that makes it difficult for women to come forward,” Irvin says. But by the end of the program, the teen gave a report on victim-blaming—and used his earlier attitude as an example.

Arizona Cardinals cornerback William Gay was just 7 years old when his mother was killed as she tried to leave an abusive relationship. As an adult, Gay has visited women’s shelters and even NFL locker rooms to relay his story and deliver his message: “there is no excuse to put your hands on a woman.”

NASCAR driver Brennan Poole says he became involved in the issue via his 17-year-old sister, Wynser, who also spoke at Thursday’s summit. Wynser said she first became aware of the problem of domestic violence after a friend of hers was in an abusive relationship. “Boys can really damage you—and I think that causes a big effect with girls and women—and with the world in the long run.”

Read More:  http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/02/23/enlisting-men-and-boys-to-stop-the-abuse-of-women.html

 

Women’s Health: A Librarian’s Tips For A Healthy Heart

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Joy Weese Moll

Librarian Book Blogger

At Valentine’s Day we have hearts on our minds, so why not mind our hearts? The library holds a selection of books for heart health. I pulled three books from my local library to help add heart health to my observation of Valentine’s Day.

“Heart 411” is a thick compendium by cardiologists Marc Gillinov and Steven Nissen. The chapters are neatly written with sound, easy-to-read advice at the beginning, backed up by scientific details that can be skimmed until you want to understand the full implications. “Mind Your Heart” by Aggie Casey and Herbert Benson is a thoughtful approach to heart health written by medical professionals. Neither Valentine’s Day nor a heart health discussion would be complete without food, so I also chose the “All Heart Family Cookbook” from WomenHeart.

Let’s use these books to invigorate a five part heart-to-heart about healthy hearts.

Get to the heart of your treatable risk factors. Many risk factors for heart disease can be improved with medicine or lifestyle changes according to “Mind Your Heart”:

“As frightening as it may be to read about, the development of heart disease is predictable — and largely preventable. The first step is to identify the factors that put you at risk for heart disease and then take steps to reduce your risk.”

“Heart 411” recommends a blood pressure check every couple of years and blood tests for cholesterol and diabetes somewhat less often. Tobacco users and people who are obese should be checked more often while taking other steps to improve their health. Do you know about the more recently discovered risk factors for heart problems? These include sleep apnea and gum disease. I’m making an appointment with my doctor this month and my dentist next month to make sure I understand my risk factors.

Eat to your heart’s content. The “All Heart Family Cookbook” identifies 40 foods that are good for your heart and offers recipes using those ingredients. It’s fun to approach a healthy diet with a list of good foods to eat rather than the common method of banishing unhealthy foods. I’m planning a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner that begins with a dark leafy green salad and ends with a square of dark chocolate.

Move to the beat of your heart. “Heart 411” recommends exercise “just about every day” to build the heart muscle, using a mix of aerobic and resistance training with appropriate stretches.

The mind/body approach in “Mind Your Heart” gives an added dimension to exercise:

“…exercise becomes a means of self-observation, a way to increase self-awareness, rather than just an outcome-oriented activity with a physical focus. When you begin to view exercise as a way of life and not as an obligation, then you are truly on the path to improving your physical and spiritual health.”

Warm your heartfelt emotions. I was surprised to learn that more recent research has refined the thinking about type A personalities. According to “Mind Your Heart”:

“It now appears that the most toxic elements of type A behavior are subcomponents of the personality profile, such as anger, hostility and cynical thinking.”

Apparently we can be driven, competitive and experience a sense of urgency without increasing our health risks. We just need to be nice about it if we want to protect our hearts.

Newer research points to the dangers of what “Heart 411” calls a type D personality featuring distress and depression along with related emotions. “Heart 411” recommends choosing from a variety of options for managing stress and boosting moods, everything from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to prayer to laughter.

“Mind Your Heart” advises consciously seeking a relaxation response as a balance to those times when we have a fight-or-flight response. The book describes a number of techniques for eliciting the relaxation response with activities like diaphragmatic breathing, visualization exercises, or yoga.

Make a whole-hearted effort to sustain the change. “Mind Your Heart” ends with a chapter called “Making It Work” and a reminder:

“Change, after all, is a journey — and it is like any journey, filled with unexpected twists and turns, challenges that might set you back a few steps, moments of frustration as well as elation. It is the rare person who is able to embrace change without a few setbacks. Most of us take a few steps forward, then a few steps back.”

This chapter includes tips for preventing a relapse to the old lifestyle with encouragement to identify our own positive strategies.

Let’s celebrate Valentine’s Day as an enjoyable activity that lifts emotions, incorporating a mindful or companionable walk and a heart-healthy meal. The holiday devoted to hearts is a good day to determine if your heart is in the right place for good health.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joy-weese-moll/heart-health-tips_b_2638498.html?utm_hp_ref=womens-health

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