I just want to keep reminding everyone of our move.

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Hi Everyone, I just want to let you know that we will be moving on March 1, 2013. I will be posting reminders everyone week until March 1.  You will receive all of same great  inspirational post and some new ones by contributing bloggers. So come join us! Thanks, Kim

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Women’s News: Ladies’ Night!

Women’s News: Ladies’ Night!

Women’s News: New Year’s Resolution: Be Kind To Yourself

Women’s News: New Year’s Resolution: Be Kind To Yourself

A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

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Women’s News: New Year’s Resolution: Be Kind To Yourself

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Michelle Hoos | The Daily Muse

In late December, I had dinner with a friend and we got to talking about our New Year’s resolutions. I told her that every year, I write out a long list of things I’m trying to accomplish for the year.

“So your resolutions are kind of like a to-do list,” she observed.

“I guess that’s true,” I said. “What’s your resolution?”

“This is going to sound cheesy, but my resolution is to just be nicer to myself,” she said.

“Wow,” I realized, “that’s a great one.”

With my friend’s permission, and with an awareness that my previous “to-do list” approach has not worked in any year prior to this one, I have replaced my litany with this far more succinct commitment: I will strive to be nice to myself. And I would recommend this goal to anyone who has already slipped up on a resolution made in this New Year.

After all, how many of us have wasted unnecessary energies on self-criticism when we fail to make it to the gym as often as we’d like, when we sleep late on the weekend, or when we indulge in a few extra calories? We can all work to establishnew and healthier habits in 2013, but here are some simple ways you can put caring for yourself at the top of your list.

Embrace Self-Compassion

Most of us—especially this time of year—fixate on our flaws. We think about what we have yet to accomplish, what we promised we would finish yet didn’t get to, those unmet goals, unread books, and yet-to-be surmounted career goals.

Instead of focusing on what you haven’t finished, embrace self-compassion—defined, simply, as your ability to accept your shortcomings with kindness and understanding.

“Having compassion for yourself means that you honor and accept your humanness,” writes Kristen Neff, an expert in the field of self-compassion. “Things will not always go the way you want them to. You will encounter frustrations, losses will occur, you will make mistakes, bump up against your limitations, fall short of your ideals. This is the human condition, a reality shared by all of us.”

To find out how self-compassionate you are, test yourself using Neff’s self-compassion scale. You can then work to increase your self-compassion using some of the exercises available on her website.

Quiet Your Inner Critic

You’re most likely very familiar with your inner critic and her tendency to put you down: She’s the one who tells you you’re not thin enough or smart enough. If you let her, she’ll keep you at night up with an endless list of all the things you did wrong that day.

But turns out, quieting your inner critic is good for your mental health. Researchshows that self-compassion leads to self-reported feelings of happiness, optimism, and curiosity.

It may not be possible to silence her entirely, but you can start recognizing your inner critic when she acts up. Change the language she uses. Instead of letting her say, “You’re lazy,” encourage her to speak to you the way you’d speak to a good friend: “You had a hard day and deserved rest after work! You’ll make it to the gym this weekend.”

Remind yourself that you are imperfect, and that’s perfectly fine.

Be Kind to Others

A recent study at University of California, Berkeley, found that participants who were compassionate towards others were in turn more compassionate toward themselves. It makes sense: Once we’re able to accept those around us, it’s that much easier to accept ourselves.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion,” says the Dalai Lama. “If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

Research supports the Dalai Lama’s sentiment: Kindness towards others leads to enhanced well-being. Want some inspiration? Check out the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation which has a list of kindness ideas to get you started.

Give Yourself Permission

After New Year’s, my friend who made the resolution to be kinder to herself sent me a one-sentence email.

I got her note on an afternoon that I was feeling especially run down and tired, yet trying to push through an imminent cold.

“Were you nice to yourself today?” it read.

I read her note, remembered my resolution, and smiled. Then, I gave myself permission to take a nap.

Give yourself these permissions to be good to yourself in the new year. If you’re feeling run down, get more sleep. If you’re feeling stressed out, take a break. And if you’re feeling bummed out because you haven’t met enough of your resolutions or goals, kindly remind yourself: You are enough.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/15/new-years-resolution-be-kind_n_2481183.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Women’s News: Ladies’ Night!

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Nicola Kraus

Co-author, ‘Between You & Me’

Where do I even start? I’m coming down with something so it wasn’t until I woke up in the middle of the night trying to breathe that I realized what I had just witnessed. An evening that is usually epitomized by Ricky Gervais’ merciless snark, a room full of old men and their tense teenage brides, whose pre-nups are running out like parking meters, and Jack Nicholson talking out of his ass, was suddenly transformed into three hours that felt like getting to catch up with my favorite girlfriends at a really nice wedding.

First there was the delicious joy of being welcomed by Tina Fey and Amy Pohler and being reunited with their real-life camaraderie and shared wit. Oh, and they looked slamming. Which makes me especially happy as Father Time is about to drag me by the ankles over the 40-yard line. I desperately need role models with faces that move. They proceeded to beautifully set the tone the way women do. They were funny and insightful (James Franco, it needed to be said) but not nasty. Ricky Gervais always seemed to enjoy making everyone nervous. A hostess knows that is no way to kick off a party.

Then, after the female head of the HFPA greeted us, and we met Mister Golden Globes (it’s about time!) the estrogen started flying. Claire Danes gave the kind of dizzy acceptance speech that only the mother of a three week-old could. I completely related to that moment of panic she had toward the end. Wait — I know I had a point — what was I saying? — Wow, I’m really tired — am I still up here? And God bless her for telling Ryan Seacrest she was afraid of leaking. That’s what I want to hear!

Then onto Lena. The wonderful, magical Lena. Yes, no one thought that she could walk in those shoes. But how endearing is that? She’s 26, people. She needs to have something to look back on and say, never again. Next year she’ll wear flats.

And then, just when I thought I couldn’t take it anymore, she appeared. And I was embarrassed as I watched the montage to admit I had forgotten. I think perhaps every woman in the room realized they had. I had forgotten that there would be no Zero Dark Thirty, no Girls, no Homeland, without this fearless woman who stood before us. I remembered seeing The Accused as a teenager — the raw anger, vulnerability and determination she brought to her performance changed the way we saw women, the way we talked about rape. She was the first tough cookie of this era, wielding a gun, catching the killer, saving her child, fighting for justice — through her choices she expanded what a generation of girls thought they could grow up to be. Her speech was honest and intimate, uniquely feminine in its scope and ambition. I was flooded with gratitude for her and I hope she will keep influencing the medium — either in front of — or behind — the camera.

And even though they were women winning in female categories, I loved Jennifer Lawrence’s straight shooting and Anne Hathaway acknowledging Sally Field. Between the two of them I am excited as the mother of a girl for what I can point to in the work they’ve done and the work we have to look forward to from them. See, Sophie, this one doesn’t brook any crap and gets the job done. And this one is charming. Take a bit of both and you can never go wrong.

Then, just when I thought I couldn’t take it anymore Girls took best comedy and Homeland took best drama. I know the HFPA is a quirky little group, representing publications like Good Morning Reykjavik, and they have lauded many people over the years no one has ever heard from again. But I’m allowed to be exuberant that the ladies took the house! So twice loneliness was acknowledged. What do you expect? When we get together we share how we’re really feeling. And now we know millions of people want to tune into that. I was inspired. I was galvanized. I was exhausted — it was waaaaay past my bedtime.

Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nicola-kraus/golden-globes-2013-women_b_2471966.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

 

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