Women’s Health: Gynecological Cancer: 5 Signs Women Ignore

Women’s Health: Gynecological Cancer: 5 Signs Women Ignore

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Marissa Mayer

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Marissa Mayer

A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

A Women’s Story: Dating in New York: A Love Story

A Women’s Story: Dating in New York: A Love Story

A Women’s Story: Dating in New York: A Love Story

Erin Joy Henry

writer, healthy living coach and model

I’d like to think of myself as a bit of an expert ondating, especially in New York City, where I’ve lived much of my adult life. I went through a lot of men here, and the experience did eventually end in love, but it’s kind of a long story. I used to get irritated with my friend and fellow single New Yorker, Andrew, for constantly reciting his “love is a battlefield” affirmation, but after many months of trying to positively reframe that statement, I think he is right.

One of my more memorable stories from “the battlefield” happened a few years ago. After two years of nagging from a friend to let a highly regarded matchmaker set me up with someone, I finally caved. And in case you’re wondering, yes, it was one of those things where women who qualify (read: meet the shallow matchmakers standards of wit and good looks) join for free and men with big bank accounts pay. Nevertheless, I decided to be bold and give it a try. And that’s how I ended up at Maialino with Phil. He was handsome and very polite before he downed ten drinks. When we headed into Rose Bar to play pool, Phil’s outrageously obnoxious behavior escalated quickly, and the guys we were playing pool against asked what on earth was wrong with me for dating him. I’m sure they thought I must be a gold-digger or hired escort for putting up with the animal that was Phil. I subtly confessed it was a blind date gone awry, and the cutie competing against me on the pool table slipped me his number. I sent him a text saying that I got home – and away from Phil — safely. That’s how I got a date with Noah.

Noah was the first guy that I’d been out with in years who was younger than me. We were having a great time until we connected the dots and figured out that I’d had a little escapade with his best friends’ father the previous summer. Needless to say, that whole thing soured after that, and Phil, Noah and Noah’s friends’ father were no longer in my dating repertoire. Manhattan gets smaller every day. I canned the matchmaker and retreated from the field for a while.

The best dates I had in New York were almost all with men who didn’t actually live here, but who left me with great memories. I sucked down grilled sardines on a breezy summer evening at the little French restaurant in the Meatpacking District; dressed up in black tie apparel for the Tony Awards; hopped on the back of a Harley in the rain after yoga in Central Park and got to enjoy some lovely weekend-long staycations in fancy hotels. But because none of the men I enjoyed those experiences with lived here, it was essentially fantasy dating. Monday morning would roll around, and poof, I was back to singledom — and wondering if I’d spot the man of my dreams around the next corner walking his dog or picking out fruit next to me at Whole Foods.

I enjoyed my single life for many years, and it was an integral part of my evolution as a human being, but I got to a point where I thought it would be really nice to be in a meaningful relationship. I just hadn’t found anyone I wanted to be in one with.

Back then, my disinterest in anyone that actually lived here could have been a sign of my emotional unavailability and subconscious fear of being smothered by a man who wanted to see me more than once a month. Or it could have been a sign that nobody here wanted to be my boyfriend. I don’t love either explanation, but I’d like to believe the former.

Actually, I did have men in New York City that I liked and who wanted to be my boyfriend, but they were either married or otherwise taken. Most shrinks would probably say that these men liked me because they were emotionally unavailable just like I was. Maybe. It’s true that more than once I found myself finally attracted to someone living in my city, then discovered he was attached. It’s also true that I was susceptible to the lures of what I call of the BBD: Bigger, Better Deal.

Think about how many smart, good-looking and accomplished people reside on or near Manhattan. It should be called Temptation Island if you ask me. We all are brushing up against each other, crammed into tiny spaces and smelling one intimate human aroma after another. Pheromones run wild in this town.

Because there are so many gorgeous, fabulous, intelligent people flitting about the city rubbing all over each other, it’s tough not to catch the BBD disease. “Hmmmm,” you start thinking. “There might just be someone out there that’s just a teensy weensy little bit better for me than this person I’m with right now. Maybe I should keep my options open.”

It’s possible that I preferred my weekend suitors because with them, I could go after the BBD. No strings attached. Next!

I know at this point in the story when I’m supposed to start telling you how I fought my way through the battlefield, resisted the islands temptation and ultimately discovered the hidden treasure, the perfect person for me, available and all mine. What can I say? I didn’t.

Instead, I was visiting Los Angeles for some continuing education last fall, and when I was least expecting it, I met my match. He is the perfect combination of strenght and masculinity mixed with a soft spiritual side, which is a combo I never thought I would be lucky enough to find. At first, I didn’t believe it could finally be happening, but my jaded Manhattan heart melted as he kept calling. He didn’t facebook or email or text me, he called. Yes, that guy still exists — the man who calls.

I’m now that annoying girl telling all of her friends — and you — that it happened when I stopped looking and that I have the best boyfriend ever and all of that. But really, my years on the field taught me a few things, most importantly that there are still a few good men out there, and that it doesn’t have to be a battle to find him. I promise.

I’m sitting on the empty floor of my little apartment in Chelsea and I just sold the last piece of furniture I own. My love story off the battlefield is just beginning — in California.

www.erinjoyhenry.com

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A Message From The Creator

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Marissa Mayer

Marissa Mayer, born on May 30, 1975 in Wausau, Wisconsin, was appointed CEO of Yahoo in 2012. Prior to joining Yahoo, she spent 13 years at Google, where her work in production development largely contributed to the site’s unique look and feel. At the time of Mayer’s Yahoo appointment, she was one of only 20 female CEOs in charge of a Fortune 500 company.

Born in Wausau, Wisconsin, on May 30, 1975, Marissa Mayer has described her early years as a small-town childhood, complete with ballet lessons, ice skating, Brownies and debate team competitions. The daughter of an engineer and an art teacher, Mayer demonstrated an early affinity for math and science. While at Wausau West High, she worked at a local grocery store, where she memorized the prices for hundreds of items in order to streamline the checkout process.

Although she grew up thinking she would be a doctor, while at Stanford University, Mayer developed a passion for computers and went on to earn both a Bachelor of Science degree in symbolic systems and an Master of Science degree in computer science with a specialization in artificial intelligence. During her studies, Mayer taught undergraduate courses in computer programming, earning two teaching awards for her contribution to undergraduate education. But it was perhaps her research internships at Stanford University and the Union Bank of Switzerland’s research lab in Zurich that helped her net 14 job offers fresh out of grad school.

Professional Success

Mayer’s 14th job offer came from Google founders Larry Page and Sergey Brin, who quizzed her on artificial intelligence while sitting at a ping-pong table that the company used for conferences. In 1999, Google wasn’t yet an Internet search giant. In fact, the company had only 19 employees. Upon accepting an offer to lead Google’s user interface and Web server teams, Mayer became the company’s 20th employee and its first female engineer.

Her tenure at Google involved work on some of the company’s most recognizable and successful products, including Google Maps, Google Earth, Street View, Google News and Gmail. Known as a fashionista with an eye for design, Mayer is widely credited for the unique look and feel that has come to characterize the Google experience. For example, she was responsible for approving each “doodle” (the custom logos commemorating holidays and events) appearing on the Google home page.

Mayer spent more than a decade at Google accumulating accolades for her work ethic, eye for detail and vision. In a 2008 interview, however, she seemed to be looking ahead to her next act. “I helped build Google,” Mayer said, “but I don’t like to rest on [my] laurels. I think the most interesting thing is what happens next.”

What happened next for Mayer captured tremendous interest both in Silicon Valley and around the world. In July 2012, she was appointed president and CEO of Yahoo, a company besieged by declining stock prices, layoffs and slowing ad revenue. Tasked with course-correcting the company, Mayer is the fifth CEO hired by Yahoo in the past five years. She is also one of only 20 women running a Fortune 500 company. As a female technology CEO, Mayer follows in the footsteps of former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly Fiorina and former eBay CEO Meg Whitman.

Adding even more interest to the appointment, Mayer announced that she and her husband, venture capitalist Zachary Bogue, are expecting their first child in October 2012.

Women’s Health: Gynecological Cancer: 5 Signs Women Ignore

By: Karen Rowan, MyHealthNewsDaily Managing Editor
Published: 09/22/2012 09:27 AM EDT on MyHealthNewsDaily

Most women don’t know the signs of gynecological cancers, and are especially unaware of symptoms unrelated to the reproductive organs, such as back pain and increased urination, according to a new study.

There are five main gynecological cancers — cervical, ovarian, uterine, vaginal and vulvar — and screening is recommended only for cervical cancer. Therefore, early detection may depend on women recognizing the symptoms and making a doctor’s appointment.

“Our findings illustrate the need to inform women about gynecologic cancer symptoms, and when to seek care,” said study researcher Cynthia Gelb, a health communication specialist at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

However, many symptoms of these cancers are common, and are not cause for alarm — they may indicate benign conditions, Gelb said. “The only way to know what is causing them is to see a health care provider.”

The study was published online Sept. 3 in the journal Family Practice.

The signs of cancer

There will be nearly 90,000 cases of gynecological cancers diagnosed in the U.S. in 2012, with more than half of those being cervical cancer, according to estimates from the National Cancer Institute. About 30,000 women will die of these five cancers this year; the deadliest of the five is ovarian cancer, which will cause about half of these deaths.

In the study, Gelb and her colleagues conducted focus-group interviews with 132 women ages 40 to 60 in Chicago, Los Angeles, Miami and New York City. Groups had seven to nine participants, and met for about two hours.

Each participant was given a list of eight symptoms of gynecological cancers, although the list was not labeled as such, and the moderator didn’t use the word “symptoms” during the discussion. Study participants indicated which symptom would most concern them, and the groups discussed what could cause each of the symptoms.

The symptom that was most concerning to women was unusual vaginal bleeding or discharge, with many saying this is a sign of “something serious,” and some recognizing it as a possible sign of cancer.

Many women also said that changes in the skin of the vulva would indicate something serious, though fewer women linked this symptom with cancer, and a few women also indicated that pain or pressure in the pelvic area could be a sign of cancer.

There were five symptoms that very few women identified as possibly being due to cancer: vaginal itching or burning, back or abdominal pain, being tired all the time, having to pass urine very badly or more often than usual, and bloating.

“All of these things and others may not register as being something to see a doctor about,” because they are common, and not seen as potential signs of a major problem, Gelb said. “Many people are tired much of the time,” women may feel bloated around the time they menstruate, and post-menopausal women commonly have to urinate frequently or more urgently, she said.

What’s normal?

One key to recognizing when a common symptom might actually indicate cancer is for women to know what is normal for them, Gelb said.

Women should know how long their periods normally last and how heavy they are, if they normally feel full quickly when eating, and if their back often hurts, she said.

Bleeding that is unusual because of when it occurs, or because it is heavier than usual, is a reason to see a doctor right away, Gelb said. For bloating and other symptoms, it is recommended that women seek care if the symptom has persisted for two weeks.

In the study, some women reported experiencing symptoms for much longer.

“Some women reported living with symptoms that caused discomfort for extended periods, even years, without seeking care,” Gelb said. Even in the case of unexplained bleeding, there were many participants who were not aware this could signal gynecologic cancer, and women who had this symptom did not seek care.

Many women in the study also said they searched on the Internet for information about symptoms. Women should be sure to consult reputable websites, Gelb said, such as the CDC’s “Inside Knowledge” site, which offers facts about gynecologic cancer and information based on scientific evidence.

“The earlier that gynecologic cancers are found and treated, the more effective treatment can be,” Gelb said.

Pass it on: The five warning signs of gynecologic cancer often go unrecognized by many women.

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