A Message From The Creator

A Message From The Creator

Women’s Health: Good News for Women With Dense Breasts: No Higher Risk of Breast Cancer Death

Women’s Health: Good News for Women With Dense Breasts: No Higher Risk of Breast Cancer Death

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Sheikha Lubna Al Qasimi

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Sheikha Lubna Al Qasimi

Death Of A Funny Lady: Phyllis Diller

Death Of A Funny Lady: Phyllis Diller

Death Of A Funny Lady: Phyllis Diller

Comedy icon Phyllis Diller has passed away at the age of 95, and she leaves behind a body of work and witticisms that will never be forgotten.

Along with Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett and Joan Rivers, Diller helped pave the way for women in comedy. Mining issues of domesticity, femininity and aging for her stand-up act, Diller developed a brutally honest, self-deprecating and audaciously witty voice that would influence generations of stand-up acts to come.

Her 2005 memoir Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse details her personal and comedic life, revealing how adept she was at spinning pain and disappointment into comedic gold.

Her are some of our favorite Phyllis Diller quotes from her celebrated career. She will be missed.

Read More: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/20/phyllis-diller-quotes_n_1812856.html?1345493600

 

Inspirational Woman Of The Day: Sheikha Lubna Al Qasimi

HE Sheikha Lubna bint Khalid bin Sultan Al Qasimi is the Minister for Foreign Trade and was previously Minister of Economic and Planning of the United Arab Emirates (UAE). She was appointed on 1 November 2004. Sheikha Lubna holds the distinction of being the first woman to hold a ministerial post in the United Arab Emirates. She is a member of the ruling family of Sharjah and the niece to His Highness Dr. Sheikh Sultan bin Mohamed Al-Qasimi. Lubna graduated from the California State University, Chico with a Bachelor’s Degree in Computer Science, and has an Executive MBA from the American University of Sharjah. Lubna received an honorary doctorate of science from California State University, Chico.

Sheikha Lubna bint Khalid bin Sultan al Qasimi, returned to the UAE to work as a programmer for software company Datamation in 1981. Lubna acted as the Dubai branch manager for the General Information Authority, the organization responsible for automating the federal government of the United Arab Emirates. After this posting, she took up the position of senior manager of the Information Systems department at the Dubai Ports Authority (DPA), the largest port in the Middle East, and worked in this role for seven years.

Lubna Khalid Sultan al Qasimi’s work at the DPA led His Highness Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al MaktoumRuler of Dubai and Chairman of Dubai Ports and Customs, to award her the “Distinguished Government Employee Award” in 1999 and appoint her as Chief Executive of Tejari, the first Middle Eastern Business-to-Business Marketplace. Lubna established the governmental organization in Dubai in June 2000 to promote e-business between organizations. Under Lubna’s leadership,Tejari has won the awards for the World Summit for Information Society’s “Best e-Content Provider in e-business” (Geneva) and the UAE Super Brands Council “Super Brand of 2003”. She is really popular in the UAE and admired by most women in the country, who consider her a role model.

Women’s Health: Good News for Women With Dense Breasts: No Higher Risk of Breast Cancer Death

By ALEXANDRA SIFFERLIN | @acsifferlin

Women with dense breasts are considered at a higher risk of developing breast cancer, in part because their tumors can be harder to spot on a mammogram. But a recent and reassuring study finds that despite their slightly increased risk, these women are no more likely to die of breast cancer than those whose breasts have more fat tissue.

 

So, even if the women’s tumors are caught later, they don’t appear to be any more aggressive or any harder to treat than other women’s tumors, the study found. The study did note a higher risk of death in some women, however: those with less dense breasts who were also obese or had very large tumors. Why that’s so isn’t clear; further study is needed.

“It shows we have a lot to learn about dense breast tissue and its implications for screening, diagnosis and treatment,” Barbara Monsees, chairwoman of the American College of Radiology’s breast imaging commission, told USA Today, commentingthat the study results were a bit surprising. Monsees wasn’t involved in the study.

(MORE: Study: For Some Women in their 40s, Routine Mammograms May Be Worth the Risks)

Whether a woman is classified as having dense breasts is a judgment call that can vary from doctor to doctor and from one year to the next, the AP reported:

Radiologists divide density levels into four categories. According to the American College of Radiology, about 10 percent of women have almost completely fatty breasts. Another 10 percent have extremely dense breasts, the level that [study co-author Dr. Karla] Kerlikowske said is linked to a higher risk of developing cancer. The rest are in between, with about 40 percent having scattered areas of density and 40 percent having fairly widespread density, categories especially difficult to classify.

Spotting cancer on a mammogram can be tough because while fat tissue shows up dark on the scan, both dense tissue and tumors appear white.

In the new study, published in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute, researchers looked at 9,232 women diagnosed with invasive breast cancer between 1996 and 2005 and followed them for an average of about 6.5 years. The researchers assessed each woman’s breast density from her mammogram and rated it on a scale of 1 to 4; women receiving a score of 1 had low-density breasts, while those getting a 4 had very high-density breasts. The vast majority of women — about 84% — fell into categories 2 or 3, the fuzzier middle of the spectrum.

By the end of the follow-up period, about 1,800 women had died, 889 from breast cancer and 810 from other causes. The researchers found that women with high-density breast tissue did not have an increased risk of death from breast cancer compared with women with lower breast density.

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The study’s findings add to the discussion over the necessity of telling women that they have dense breasts and then recommending that they get additional screening, such as ultrasound or MRI, which can sometimes detect tumors that mammograms miss. In a statement, the authors said:

State legislatures have passed and continue to pass laws requiring radiologists to notify women that they have dense breast tissue. Some of these laws actually mention that women might want to participate in MRI and/or ultrasound screening because they have dense breasts. However, it is unknown if such screening can actually benefit them in terms of saving lives.

Indeed, there’s no data to suggest that these extra expensive tests save lives. What’s more, they tend to lead to more false alarms, causing women unneeded stress and unnecessary treatments. Meanwhile, four states — Connecticut, Texas, Virginia and New York — have passed laws requiring health-care providers to inform women if their mammograms show they have dense breasts.

And while that information can be potentially useful, it’s still not clear exactly how. Breast density must be considered along with a woman’s other cancer risk factors, like family history, for example, as well as her age. Breast density tends to decrease naturally as women get older, so it’s possible that a 60-year-old with dense breasts might be at greater risk than a younger woman with the same density.

As Dr. Otis Brawley of the American Cancer Society, pointed out to the AP: “We’re making policy in a gray area where the experts and doctors don’t know what it means.”

MORE: Higher Risk for Women With False-Positive Mammogram Results

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2012/08/21/good-news-for-women-with-dense-breasts-no-higher-risk-of-breast-cancer-death/#ixzz24DeXQI6W

A Message From The Creator

A Woman’s Choice: Childless So Far: Why I Choose Love Over Motherhood

Melanie Notkin

CEO Melanie Notkin Media, Inc/Savvy Auntie

“You’re going to hate me for saying this,” says my good friend, a married mom of three, as we stand on the beach and look toward the ocean. “But you’re never going to find a man. They’re just not out there. No single woman I know can find a guy.” She takes a breath and adds: “So you should have a baby. Do whatever it takes and have a baby. You should at least become a mother.” I don’t hate her for saying it. She is saying what so many others are thinking.

“I just don’t want to see you alone the rest of your life,” she adds softly to mitigate the harshness of her advice. The rest of my life, I think to myself as I look toward the horizon. It’s too endless to imagine.

“But this is the rest of my life. Right here and right now, this is my life. I am alone. And I’m OK. It’s not what I want. It’s not what I expected. It’s not where I want to be. But it’s my reality,” I say, more defiantly than usual. I’m running out of ways to show I’m not a victim to friends who wonder if I am.

When you’re at the end of your fertility, at the end of the summer, at the other end of an argument you can’t win, all you want to do is wait it out.

But your good friends want to know you’re OK. And I feel the need to defend why I’m not a mother even though being a mother is all I ever wanted to be. “I don’t want have to have a baby on my own,” I argue. “I can’t imagine how lonely being a single mother can potentially be. It’s hard enough to meet a man, and it’s even harder to meet a man who wants to be with a pregnant woman, or a new mother, or a harried single mother. Besides, I don’t have any support. I don’t have parents nearby or siblings who can help me. And honestly,” I add tepidly, “I don’t want to have a baby from the sperm of a man I don’t know. I want to know where my son’s clef chin came from. I want to know where my newborn daughter’s long fingers came from. I want to look into my baby’s eyes and see the love of my life.”

I’m a hopeless romantic. When I fall in love, which happens very rarely, I fall deeply, madly, spiritually-on-a-whole-other-level in love. It’s not a naïve love. I know there are problems — most often it’s that he has no desire to be in a long-term committed relationship — but it’s love. At least, that’s how I remember it.

I look at the families on the beach. Little boys chasing little girls in the sand. A couple sharing a glance. A father and son running into the waves…. My friend sees it too and softens her tone even more: “I’m just saying you’d make an amazing mom, and it’s just a shame that you’ll never be a mother. It’s sad that you’ll never have a family.”

I’m sad too, but I know I’m not the only one dealing with this. Just last week, a business colleague, a single woman in her mid-thirties, confessed that an article I wrote made her cry on the treadmill in the middle of her morning workout. “I saw myself in your writing,” she said. Later that night, an acquaintance stole me away at a party, where the ratio was at best 80/20 women to men: “I never thought it would end up this way,” the very pretty brunette told me. “I can’t believe I’m turning 40 next month and this is my life.”

“All the single women I know are fabulous,” a 50-something divorced mom and business colleague said over the phone. “I was in a meeting yesterday and looked around the room. Each woman was in your shoes. It’s a different time now than in my day. Maybe you have more financial freedom and social acceptance to wait for the right guy, but the right guys don’t seem to be coming along.”

“I have a friend who is 45, and she’s involved with this guy, madly in love,” said another business colleague, a married mom of two, later in the week. “But he doesn’t want more children. And all she’s talked about since I’ve known her is how badly she wants to be a mother. And we all know she’d make an extraordinary mom. How can she stay with him if he doesn’t want kids? How can she give that up?”

“She’s in love,” I said. “She chose love. She knows what she’s potentially giving up. But she’s found love, let her have it.” I realize I’ve stepped over the line, but those who have found love and have had children tend to be laissez-faire about their good fortune. “We just never thought she’d choose not to have children,” she added. “She didn’t choose not to have children, she chose to have children with a man she loves and when that didn’t happen, she kept the love,” I explained.

I’m burying my feet in the sand. “If you don’t do something soon, you’ll never be a mother,” my friend warns. “I know,” I reply with a sigh. “I am aware of my age and fertility. But I have grieved that I won’t ever be a young mom. I’ve gotten over that I probably won’t be an older first-time mom, either. I have made a choice not to have a baby on my own. Having a baby on my own is not something I ever imagined, dreamed of, desired, nor is it something I believe I am capable of. It doesn’t mean it’s not heartbreaking. It doesn’t mean I don’t still have hope I’ll have a baby. It means I am holding out to have a baby with a man I love.”

“But what if love never comes?” she adds. “What if Mr. Perfect never arrives?”

“I’m not waiting for Mr. Perfect. I’m not even waiting for Mr. Perfect-For-Me,” I argue, digging my heels even deeper into the sand. “I am waiting for love. I am waiting for love with all its bumps and bruises and imperfections and hard times and good times and over-the-moon-times and laughter and intimacy and…. and I simply haven’t found that love yet. Or I haven’t found it when he was ready for it. But I know without a doubt that I deserve love. I deserve to have my heart skip a beat when I merely think of him. I deserve to be held like the world is standing still around us. I believe in love. I believe when I meet him he will make every lonely day I waited worth it.

“It hasn’t happened on the timeline that I expected. And it’s possible it will come too late for motherhood. And you’re right, it may never come at all,” I say, hoping it isn’t true.

“However, I can say this,” I add. “I’ve never been happier with who I am. I feel more ‘me’ than I’ve ever known me to be. I’ve never been more proud of my strengths or more self-aware of my weaknesses. I have made mistakes. Big mistakes. I have taken risks. Big risks. I have done things I never imagined I could do. I have met people I never imagined I’d ever meet. I have put everything on the line to live my life to its potential and I am living an extraordinary life. This is me. And I am the very best version of me I have ever been.

“I am ready for him. And when he meets me, he will know he’s met the best of me. And together we will be the best of us. In the meantime, I am waiting. I am waiting. I am waiting for love.”

The tide comes in and washes the sand off my feet and I’m reminded that it’s only a matter of time.


I know many single moms by choice and I have the utmost respect for them. My choice not to try to have a baby on my own is not a reflection or judgment of any sort on their extraordinary choice to be mothers. I admire them to the utmost, truly. I only wish I had the courage they posses.

Read More: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melanie-notkin/childless-why-i-choose-love-over-motherhood_b_1810415.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

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